Can someone please explain this to me?
Whatever happened to morals and common courtesy? To honesty? To people doing what they say they're going to do when they have no real reason not to?
I'll put it to you like this: a friendship takes two people. Two. So, doesn't it seem unfair that one person should be taking all the effort to make it work? Or, at least, doesn't it seem unfair that one person should even have reason to feel that way, even if it's not true?
Basically, you don't have to give a damn about me...but if you do, act like it at least once in a while. On the other hand, if you don't give a damn, tell me. Don't patronize me. Don't pretend to care if you don't. That doesn't do anyone good. Because chances are if you're pretending, I will know. Either that, or I will think that I have wronged you in such a way that I deserve to be treated as less than a friend...less than an aquaintance.
We all have our own lives. We all have responsibilities. School/work/family/etc. But...isn't one of our responsibilities as humans to make those we love feel loved? Make our friends feel befriended? And also, to be honest...even if the truth hurts? Because the truth can, and often times does, hurt. That's just life, folks. If you don't know that by now, you have some serious lessons to learn.
No, I'm not directing this at one person, nor am I directing it at everyone. Believe it or not, I know that there are some people out there that do care, because they say it and they show it. There are just several of you out there that say you do, and then do things to contradict yourself. And ya know, actions speak louder than words. And even though both words and actions are powerful things in their own ways, you can't just use one or the other.
So, for those of you who claim to be my friends, think about this. When was the last time you thought about me? Genuinely wondered how I was doing? Actually took the 2 seconds to say, "hey, what's up?" And then listened to me? Now, I can pretty much guarentee you that whatever your answer was, mine was much more recent for you.
I know that's a lot of "I"s and "me"s. So, I'm being selfish you might say? Well, I'm sorry that I actually think I deserve to be treated like a friend by those who call me by it. Or that I deserve to know where the hell I stand with the people I care about. I'm sorry if that's too much to ask.
I can look at this both ways, too. Is it not you that has the problem, but me instead? Do I just care too much? Is there such a thing? Maybe. I have never thought so...but maybe I was wrong. I don't know anymore.
If that were the case, then I guess I would need to compromise. But you see, I feel obligated to work as hard as I do at the friendships I have, because I fear if I don't, I will lose them. And if you know me, you know that's a huge deal. It's not easy for me to sit back and trust certain friendships when it doesn't feel like there is one in the first place.
So, what am I supposed to do?
I'll put it to you like this: a friendship takes two people. Two. So, doesn't it seem unfair that one person should be taking all the effort to make it work? Or, at least, doesn't it seem unfair that one person should even have reason to feel that way, even if it's not true?
Basically, you don't have to give a damn about me...but if you do, act like it at least once in a while. On the other hand, if you don't give a damn, tell me. Don't patronize me. Don't pretend to care if you don't. That doesn't do anyone good. Because chances are if you're pretending, I will know. Either that, or I will think that I have wronged you in such a way that I deserve to be treated as less than a friend...less than an aquaintance.
We all have our own lives. We all have responsibilities. School/work/family/etc. But...isn't one of our responsibilities as humans to make those we love feel loved? Make our friends feel befriended? And also, to be honest...even if the truth hurts? Because the truth can, and often times does, hurt. That's just life, folks. If you don't know that by now, you have some serious lessons to learn.
No, I'm not directing this at one person, nor am I directing it at everyone. Believe it or not, I know that there are some people out there that do care, because they say it and they show it. There are just several of you out there that say you do, and then do things to contradict yourself. And ya know, actions speak louder than words. And even though both words and actions are powerful things in their own ways, you can't just use one or the other.
So, for those of you who claim to be my friends, think about this. When was the last time you thought about me? Genuinely wondered how I was doing? Actually took the 2 seconds to say, "hey, what's up?" And then listened to me? Now, I can pretty much guarentee you that whatever your answer was, mine was much more recent for you.
I know that's a lot of "I"s and "me"s. So, I'm being selfish you might say? Well, I'm sorry that I actually think I deserve to be treated like a friend by those who call me by it. Or that I deserve to know where the hell I stand with the people I care about. I'm sorry if that's too much to ask.
I can look at this both ways, too. Is it not you that has the problem, but me instead? Do I just care too much? Is there such a thing? Maybe. I have never thought so...but maybe I was wrong. I don't know anymore.
If that were the case, then I guess I would need to compromise. But you see, I feel obligated to work as hard as I do at the friendships I have, because I fear if I don't, I will lose them. And if you know me, you know that's a huge deal. It's not easy for me to sit back and trust certain friendships when it doesn't feel like there is one in the first place.
So, what am I supposed to do?