the Mate will be forever 41 because of cancer. colon cancer, to be specific, which "statistically never happens in a person (his) age". which is true, that's why 50 is the baseline for colonoscopy. he smoked, he was a recovering alcoholic*, he had lived on the streets homeless for a couple of three years. probably contributing factors...but as we never knew his family history (he was adopted under a sealed adoption), who knows what else factors were there?
we don't know EVERY reason that a person may contract cancer. bad genes, bad habits, bad environment, all those play a part. but there are a lot of good-living otherwise healthy people who get cancer, too. and people who get TOTALLY TREATABLE TO-A-CURE cancers who refuse to do anything about them. but that's another rant that will send me frothing at the lips.
*being a recovering alcoholic, he had a very high tolerance to pain medication. he was in a teaching hospital, with a permanent paliative care doctor...and the FIRST thing that new docs on his floor did was cut his pain meds. it got to the point where his nurses would call me the days new doctors would come in, so that i could "put the fear of the short woman" into them. then they'd hang about close to the door to listen. *snerk* i could not do much for him, he was dying and we knew it. but i was NOT going to let some fool who did not know the entire story look at a number, freak out, and undo the other doctor's good work in finding a level of medication that WORKED for the poor dude. and yeah, he died comfortable.
I am amazed at the ability of the medical profession to live with themselves KNOWING how often they deliberately leave desperately ill patients in pain rather than give them enough medicine to keep them comfortable. There is no guess work left when it comes to figuring out how much pain med to give. These days you wind up having to waste time figuring out how to browbeat a doctor into giving it to you. I have little respect and less trust when it comes to modern medicine. They are all about protecting themselves against possible malpractice suits and they couldn't care less about their patients so long as they can prove "on paper" that they did what they are required to do. :^{
not only that, but in the US, we have pencil pushing people who are NOT doctors deciding what is and what is not an addictive dosage of medication. and holy cats, hospice care patients should be allowed as much medication as needed to keep them comfortable!
I am so sorry you were put through that. Bad enough to lose your mate, but to have to scrap with the d@mned doctors over keeping him comfortable is beyond acceptable. You and I both know that medical doctors who suffer terminal illnesses don't have to put up with such nonsense. :^{
we don't know EVERY reason that a person may contract cancer. bad genes, bad habits, bad environment, all those play a part. but there are a lot of good-living otherwise healthy people who get cancer, too. and people who get TOTALLY TREATABLE TO-A-CURE cancers who refuse to do anything about them. but that's another rant that will send me frothing at the lips.
*being a recovering alcoholic, he had a very high tolerance to pain medication. he was in a teaching hospital, with a permanent paliative care doctor...and the FIRST thing that new docs on his floor did was cut his pain meds. it got to the point where his nurses would call me the days new doctors would come in, so that i could "put the fear of the short woman" into them. then they'd hang about close to the door to listen. *snerk* i could not do much for him, he was dying and we knew it. but i was NOT going to let some fool who did not know the entire story look at a number, freak out, and undo the other doctor's good work in finding a level of medication that WORKED for the poor dude. and yeah, he died comfortable.
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There is no guess work left when it comes to figuring out how much pain med to give. These days you wind up having to waste time figuring out how to browbeat a doctor into giving it to you.
I have little respect and less trust when it comes to modern medicine. They are all about protecting themselves against possible malpractice suits and they couldn't care less about their patients so long as they can prove "on paper" that they did what they are required to do.
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You and I both know that medical doctors who suffer terminal illnesses don't have to put up with such nonsense.
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