cautioon-long rant...
i honestly don't think i have ever seen my mom so mad..or hurt or whatever it was..but it was scary
basically while my brother was in europe, she redid his room-new rug, chair, new wall hanging and she went through all his stuff and threw out the stuff that she didn't think was important..(like his dictionary, which he says is basically his best-friend)...so he came home today and got really mad and upset that she had thrown all his stuff out and redone his room, without his permission..she the got affended back getting mad becuase he never wanted anything from her..and all..and my brother tried to get her to understand that it wasn't because she had done it, but because she hadn't asked for his permission..so she admitted that she did for herself and shouldn't he be happy that she'd done something for herself, because its good for her to do that...and of course he answers yes, but she did it without thinking about him and what he would want which made her really defensive..for some reason although she has always encouraged us to be trueful, she thought that he should have appreciated her doing all this work "for him" and have just lived with it if he didn't like it...but he was just coming back from ten days away from home and all he wanted was to relax in his room and be able to work, but he couldn't find anything and it felt "just like another hotel room"..
my mom took a picture that she had frammed of me and her for him to take to college to remember us and slammed it on the floor, becuase he "didn't want anything from her" i mean it wasn't as though he was trying to be mean, he was hurt that she wouldn't respect his privacy and ask him... whenever my mom mentioned to someone that she was doing this, they would tell her that if they did that to their son he'd be mad if he didn;t have a say in it...and she just said oh no he'll love it, and anyway if he doesn't he has only has six months living here..she just has to do everything for herself, and i am proud of my brother or standing up to her and trying to make her respect him, but it completely backfired-not only is she extremely mad at him, but she punished him (as though he needs to be punished, because he was "so bad") in a really cruel way..penn housing forms come this friday, and my brother wants to house in one of the high rises-appartment like dorms with paul, but now my mom is refusing him to do so and saying he has a chose of king's court or hill, becuase she doesn't like the highrises..so bascially he has to live where he doesn't want to and he can't room with paul, becuase paul is pretty set on the highrises, and is not going to change just because my mom wouldn't let chris go with him..which basically has completely depressed chris because he thinks this will completely screw up his college life
he thought that by going to college he would get away from my mom and all-as he said he wants to erase the first eighteen years of his life before graduation-but now she still manages to ruin his life, not to mention that he found out today that he wasn't accepted for this german abroad program that he had applied for where he would have been able to spend a month in germany this summer for minimal costs-he got accepted as an alternative, but considering that the applicants are expeced to go unless they get really really sick, therefore there is practically no chance of him going, which just further depressed him, becuase he really really cared out this program and really doesn't want to have to spend the summer here..im glad that he gets to leave next year, not that i want to see him go, but because he really really can't stand it here and can't stand my mom and wants to just get out and be free from all of it...but now she is ruining his experience there..i mean maybe she'll calm down in a few days and be more rational, but i really doubt it, seeing as she was pretty against the highrises to begin with, but now...and it not that i mean to completely paint her as the villian, because i think it really upset her that my brother insulted her decorating, or just the idea of doing it, but she was so selfish about it and irrational that i can't help but pity by brother who did nothing but tell the truth, and nothing i don't think practically anyone else wouldn't have done in the situation,. i don't know i am just worried about both and them and i hope they will come to understnad one another, but i really don't think it can happen, so i guess i just hope that my brother can surive these next six months and go to college without his college years and the rest of his life be messed up, becuase of her-he has so much potential and so much life ahead and she's done enough damage to him as it is and it is not fair of her to do any more, even if she didn't mean to, she just has to think about others for once
...sorry for ranting on and on, is just i really needed to just write it down and all-its the first time in a really long time that i've seen both of them so upset, especailly my brother
basically while my brother was in europe, she redid his room-new rug, chair, new wall hanging and she went through all his stuff and threw out the stuff that she didn't think was important..(like his dictionary, which he says is basically his best-friend)...so he came home today and got really mad and upset that she had thrown all his stuff out and redone his room, without his permission..she the got affended back getting mad becuase he never wanted anything from her..and all..and my brother tried to get her to understand that it wasn't because she had done it, but because she hadn't asked for his permission..so she admitted that she did for herself and shouldn't he be happy that she'd done something for herself, because its good for her to do that...and of course he answers yes, but she did it without thinking about him and what he would want which made her really defensive..for some reason although she has always encouraged us to be trueful, she thought that he should have appreciated her doing all this work "for him" and have just lived with it if he didn't like it...but he was just coming back from ten days away from home and all he wanted was to relax in his room and be able to work, but he couldn't find anything and it felt "just like another hotel room"..
my mom took a picture that she had frammed of me and her for him to take to college to remember us and slammed it on the floor, becuase he "didn't want anything from her" i mean it wasn't as though he was trying to be mean, he was hurt that she wouldn't respect his privacy and ask him... whenever my mom mentioned to someone that she was doing this, they would tell her that if they did that to their son he'd be mad if he didn;t have a say in it...and she just said oh no he'll love it, and anyway if he doesn't he has only has six months living here..she just has to do everything for herself, and i am proud of my brother or standing up to her and trying to make her respect him, but it completely backfired-not only is she extremely mad at him, but she punished him (as though he needs to be punished, because he was "so bad") in a really cruel way..penn housing forms come this friday, and my brother wants to house in one of the high rises-appartment like dorms with paul, but now my mom is refusing him to do so and saying he has a chose of king's court or hill, becuase she doesn't like the highrises..so bascially he has to live where he doesn't want to and he can't room with paul, becuase paul is pretty set on the highrises, and is not going to change just because my mom wouldn't let chris go with him..which basically has completely depressed chris because he thinks this will completely screw up his college life
he thought that by going to college he would get away from my mom and all-as he said he wants to erase the first eighteen years of his life before graduation-but now she still manages to ruin his life, not to mention that he found out today that he wasn't accepted for this german abroad program that he had applied for where he would have been able to spend a month in germany this summer for minimal costs-he got accepted as an alternative, but considering that the applicants are expeced to go unless they get really really sick, therefore there is practically no chance of him going, which just further depressed him, becuase he really really cared out this program and really doesn't want to have to spend the summer here..im glad that he gets to leave next year, not that i want to see him go, but because he really really can't stand it here and can't stand my mom and wants to just get out and be free from all of it...but now she is ruining his experience there..i mean maybe she'll calm down in a few days and be more rational, but i really doubt it, seeing as she was pretty against the highrises to begin with, but now...and it not that i mean to completely paint her as the villian, because i think it really upset her that my brother insulted her decorating, or just the idea of doing it, but she was so selfish about it and irrational that i can't help but pity by brother who did nothing but tell the truth, and nothing i don't think practically anyone else wouldn't have done in the situation,. i don't know i am just worried about both and them and i hope they will come to understnad one another, but i really don't think it can happen, so i guess i just hope that my brother can surive these next six months and go to college without his college years and the rest of his life be messed up, becuase of her-he has so much potential and so much life ahead and she's done enough damage to him as it is and it is not fair of her to do any more, even if she didn't mean to, she just has to think about others for once
...sorry for ranting on and on, is just i really needed to just write it down and all-its the first time in a really long time that i've seen both of them so upset, especailly my brother