Soulmate Finding Project Not Working #freedomofreligion #FirstAmendment #ATX
Long ago, a female hit on me during a church meeting, so looking back I thought it might work to look for romance in churches.
I have come to the conclusion that my current soulmate finding project is just not working. Thankfully, I may be wrong, but I think I can say, I can't blame lack of effort. In life, I try to make damn sure my failures are not due to lack of effort. I try to put massive energy into all my major endeavors (Dave Ramsey calls this acting "gazelle like"), and this has been no exception.
I have chronicled my soulmate finding project of visiting as many religious assemblies as possible in Austin. While I haven't managed to visit all Austin's religious assemblies, if that's even possible, I have managed to visit tons. I have celebrated things like visiting 8 religious assemblies in one day once, and a couple of times, visiting 7 churches in one day. Even when I don't achieve my goals, I like to celebrate the effort and planning that makes even such attempts possible; after all, you avoid discouragement by finding something to celebrate.
Still, I don't want to do futile things. I haven't found my soulmate. I haven't even found any dates. I have barely found any leads. This is not working.
I hate giving up on things, but I did realize a few years ago, perseverance is all about ends, not means, so it's okay to give up the means if they are not leading you to your goals. In fact, it's very wise to do so, as long as you don't give on on the end goal.
In addition to this religious assembly visiting soulmate project, I have been doing online dating. I have tried free sites, and I signed up for a few months for a pay site, and I feel lucky to even get a response despite hundreds of attempts.
So I need to do something different. I don't plan on giving up on the end goal of finding my soulmate or even finding a date. Just right now, I don't know what to do; I know I need to take action to achieve my goals, yet I don't know what action to take. I don't want to take action if it's futile just for the sake of taking action, as Anthony Robbins said, "Don't confuse activity with results."
I rack my mind for the solution to my epic failure at attracting the opposite sex. The reasons others give don't add up. For example, a few years back on livejournal, I wrote about how I found some women attractive, and one mean former livejournal friend said "the reason I don't have a girlfriend is because I "objectify" women". Even if that held true that I was the worst objectifier of women on the planet, obviously, women do reward chauvinistic men. Hugh Hefner even had 9 girlfriends at one point, so maybe those who objectify women more get more dates. Chris Brown beat Rihanna (a woman who can have any man on the planet) black and blue and she still rewarded him at the romantic game.
Some say "it's because I don't have Jesus in my heart." That's silly because obviously many non-Christians have gone on dates and have romantic partners. Even atheists get married.
I do have some traits that though not innately negative make my quest more challenging. I am short, yet though most women seem to have a tall fetish, shorter men that me do attract dates and mates. I am intensely driven and hopefully ambitious, which some find oft putting, but still some driven and ambitious men find plenty of romantic action. I am a nerd, yet though most women don't seem to prefer nerds, sometimes nerds attract partners. I'm not very macho or what women consider the typical "alpha male", yet I've known even effeminate men (I try not to act effeminate mind you) attract women. It seems like my Asperger's Syndrome plays a big role, yet still some Aspies do find romantic partners. Maybe I'm arrogant, yet of course, plenty of arrogant men win at the game of romance and sexual attraction. Maybe I'm too unique. Maybe it's a combination of all these things, that together, make it seemingly infinitely challenging.
I don't think it's my approach either, at least not all the time. I have women who tell me men say crude pick up lines to them, yet I NEVER do that, yet somehow they have way more success than me. I try to act polite and respectful and ask intelligent questions. I have a goal to wait for marriage for sex, yet despite all the women who say they hate when men are after just one thing, they still go for the men who want sex now rather than men who have other priorities.
Right now I am focusing as much as possible on my business, Free Press Media Press, and thus I have less to give to this soulmate finding quest than I did in the past. Interestingly, though I haven't struck gold, or silver, or bronze yet with my business, I have at least earned some revenue (some rewards) from selling some products, which is a lot more than I can say for my soulmate finding project. I have little time, energy, or money for dating now even if I would happen to find someone willing.
Before I did this religious assembly visiting soulmate project, I did other in person projects and other online dating projects both on typical dating sites and on other social media sites. Despite hundreds of efforts, I have almost no results. Ironically, my best results (such as they are) have occurred in years past, and you would think when you engage in self improvement, you would find more success as you get much better. I constantly read self improvement literature and other helpful books and engage in constant personal transformations, yet still no gain. So I really can't figure this one out: on paper I seem to be doing all the right things, yet I keep losing big time.
So does anyone have any ideas that I haven't already tried? I do know this: as soon as I can think of some other types of action to take, I intend to take some action because it's all about action, like motivators say. I haven't discovered what action I ought to take, so now I'm in state of reflection waiting for inspiration. While action reigns supreme, sometimes you just need to sit back and reflect so you can take better action in the future.
May I discover the next type of action to take that will lead to more dates and even a soulmate. May I keep pressing on and find my soulmate soon!
I have come to the conclusion that my current soulmate finding project is just not working. Thankfully, I may be wrong, but I think I can say, I can't blame lack of effort. In life, I try to make damn sure my failures are not due to lack of effort. I try to put massive energy into all my major endeavors (Dave Ramsey calls this acting "gazelle like"), and this has been no exception.
I have chronicled my soulmate finding project of visiting as many religious assemblies as possible in Austin. While I haven't managed to visit all Austin's religious assemblies, if that's even possible, I have managed to visit tons. I have celebrated things like visiting 8 religious assemblies in one day once, and a couple of times, visiting 7 churches in one day. Even when I don't achieve my goals, I like to celebrate the effort and planning that makes even such attempts possible; after all, you avoid discouragement by finding something to celebrate.
Still, I don't want to do futile things. I haven't found my soulmate. I haven't even found any dates. I have barely found any leads. This is not working.
I hate giving up on things, but I did realize a few years ago, perseverance is all about ends, not means, so it's okay to give up the means if they are not leading you to your goals. In fact, it's very wise to do so, as long as you don't give on on the end goal.
In addition to this religious assembly visiting soulmate project, I have been doing online dating. I have tried free sites, and I signed up for a few months for a pay site, and I feel lucky to even get a response despite hundreds of attempts.
So I need to do something different. I don't plan on giving up on the end goal of finding my soulmate or even finding a date. Just right now, I don't know what to do; I know I need to take action to achieve my goals, yet I don't know what action to take. I don't want to take action if it's futile just for the sake of taking action, as Anthony Robbins said, "Don't confuse activity with results."
I rack my mind for the solution to my epic failure at attracting the opposite sex. The reasons others give don't add up. For example, a few years back on livejournal, I wrote about how I found some women attractive, and one mean former livejournal friend said "the reason I don't have a girlfriend is because I "objectify" women". Even if that held true that I was the worst objectifier of women on the planet, obviously, women do reward chauvinistic men. Hugh Hefner even had 9 girlfriends at one point, so maybe those who objectify women more get more dates. Chris Brown beat Rihanna (a woman who can have any man on the planet) black and blue and she still rewarded him at the romantic game.
Some say "it's because I don't have Jesus in my heart." That's silly because obviously many non-Christians have gone on dates and have romantic partners. Even atheists get married.
I do have some traits that though not innately negative make my quest more challenging. I am short, yet though most women seem to have a tall fetish, shorter men that me do attract dates and mates. I am intensely driven and hopefully ambitious, which some find oft putting, but still some driven and ambitious men find plenty of romantic action. I am a nerd, yet though most women don't seem to prefer nerds, sometimes nerds attract partners. I'm not very macho or what women consider the typical "alpha male", yet I've known even effeminate men (I try not to act effeminate mind you) attract women. It seems like my Asperger's Syndrome plays a big role, yet still some Aspies do find romantic partners. Maybe I'm arrogant, yet of course, plenty of arrogant men win at the game of romance and sexual attraction. Maybe I'm too unique. Maybe it's a combination of all these things, that together, make it seemingly infinitely challenging.
I don't think it's my approach either, at least not all the time. I have women who tell me men say crude pick up lines to them, yet I NEVER do that, yet somehow they have way more success than me. I try to act polite and respectful and ask intelligent questions. I have a goal to wait for marriage for sex, yet despite all the women who say they hate when men are after just one thing, they still go for the men who want sex now rather than men who have other priorities.
Right now I am focusing as much as possible on my business, Free Press Media Press, and thus I have less to give to this soulmate finding quest than I did in the past. Interestingly, though I haven't struck gold, or silver, or bronze yet with my business, I have at least earned some revenue (some rewards) from selling some products, which is a lot more than I can say for my soulmate finding project. I have little time, energy, or money for dating now even if I would happen to find someone willing.
Before I did this religious assembly visiting soulmate project, I did other in person projects and other online dating projects both on typical dating sites and on other social media sites. Despite hundreds of efforts, I have almost no results. Ironically, my best results (such as they are) have occurred in years past, and you would think when you engage in self improvement, you would find more success as you get much better. I constantly read self improvement literature and other helpful books and engage in constant personal transformations, yet still no gain. So I really can't figure this one out: on paper I seem to be doing all the right things, yet I keep losing big time.
So does anyone have any ideas that I haven't already tried? I do know this: as soon as I can think of some other types of action to take, I intend to take some action because it's all about action, like motivators say. I haven't discovered what action I ought to take, so now I'm in state of reflection waiting for inspiration. While action reigns supreme, sometimes you just need to sit back and reflect so you can take better action in the future.
May I discover the next type of action to take that will lead to more dates and even a soulmate. May I keep pressing on and find my soulmate soon!