Furious
I'm beyond livid at the moment. I've super-upset my wife and feel completely justified. The past 3+ years she has spent the bulk of her free time ignoring me, her family, her driving, and her work, for Socionics. A type of psychology that goes above and beyond the normal scope based on a theory that people can be put into little boxes. The second biggest problem with that is the fact you can't. Based on regular psychological teachings type A people will sometimes exhibit type B behavior and vice versa. Split the ABCD types into 16 and you have a cluster fuck of people trying to find where they fit to no avail. Everyone bounces between different areas of the spectrum at different points in their life. A teenager is probably a different type than their adult counterpart. A person in a bad relationship is probably a different type than the same person in a good relationship. Someone who just lost a family member is probably a different type than they were the day before. Someone who smokes or does any kind of drugs is likely a different type than if they weren't dependent on any such chemicals. We adapt and change depending on our surroundings so the possibilities are endless. Therefore, the first biggest problem with Socionics is the time put into it. To figure out a type might take a couple hours with several "experts" (more on this later) looking into it at once. Then the next several weeks/months/years is spent debating that as well as the types of others. Is it ever truly figured out? No it isn't. This is what I consider the worst use of time I have ever encountered (on par with, if not worse than, World of Warcraft and Farmville). It's like joining a club that meets to do nothing at all. The third biggest problem with Socionics is the people. There might be a few with PHDs or whatever, but the bulk of them are just people who happened to pass by the 'meeting of nothing'. It's a ragtag group of mostly nobodies, with little to no background on psychology. There are essentially no experts except those who think they are. This is generally based on how revered they are in the community and how many agree with them.
So to my wife and anyone else who has spent more time with Socionics than with the people around them who matter most. You are all worthless any time spent with socionics. You are not figuring out how to become a better person. You are only learning that you might fit in a box, and in doing so might be hurting those around you. There are better ways to contribute to to society that do not involve alienating loved ones.
The rest of our family has suffered enough. Stop trying to figure out life and just live it.