It's a doozy...
So, apparently it's argue about everything these days. Which seems to have left me with TMJ and the sensation of being choked (lump in the throat, if you will). Which, for all my yoga friends who might be reading this, means communication issues. Yay! /sarcasm
So, in light of my inability to just dress someone down verbally, I'm going to go ahead and get it out. Since this is mainly a rant, I won't be responding to comments, whether here or on FaceBook. So if you feel maligned, well, suck it up.
If you want to argue or debate with me, please, use fucking facts. Use the words I put into debate. If you assume I mean something and I respond in the negative to that assumption, it means I've negated your assumption. It means your assumption does not apply to my argument. So drop it. Don't continually tell me that I am saying what you assume because all it means is that you don't respect my opinions enough to actually read what I said. I expect the same in return. If I'm misunderstanding you, state it. Correct my assumptions. It's called coming to an understanding and it's how people can disagree on something, but at least understand why and what the other thinks.
Don't gaslight me. I do my best to avoid doing it to other people and will always acknowledge where they're coming from and what their perspective is, but it's part of that respect thing. When you give me the equivalent argument of "Hey, they're housing homeless folks in Utah and Vermont, why don't you move there?" To a homeless person in Atlanta, you're telling me that my experience is bullshit and doesn't count. Because in both situations, money just won't appear out of thin air to cover the costs. This also goes hand in hand with that assumption thing.
If I stop responding to the argument, it's because it's not productive and it's either pissing me off or I'm about to get ad hominem on your ass. That latter thing, isn't terribly respectful and while I might do it on my threads if you're being a jackass I'm not going to do it on someone else's.
This shit has been pissing me off to no end for the last month, not so much that I'm seeing it too much, but that I'm watching friendships be destroyed all because someone isn't listening/reading comprehensively. And it's been happening to me. If ever there was a serious divide, it's pretty damned obvious lately. The good thing, at least my f-lists are getting much smaller. Maybe this is nature's way of culling but whatever, if you're one of these people, feel free to put me on your next round of deletions. I'm ok with that.
So, in light of my inability to just dress someone down verbally, I'm going to go ahead and get it out. Since this is mainly a rant, I won't be responding to comments, whether here or on FaceBook. So if you feel maligned, well, suck it up.
If you want to argue or debate with me, please, use fucking facts. Use the words I put into debate. If you assume I mean something and I respond in the negative to that assumption, it means I've negated your assumption. It means your assumption does not apply to my argument. So drop it. Don't continually tell me that I am saying what you assume because all it means is that you don't respect my opinions enough to actually read what I said. I expect the same in return. If I'm misunderstanding you, state it. Correct my assumptions. It's called coming to an understanding and it's how people can disagree on something, but at least understand why and what the other thinks.
Don't gaslight me. I do my best to avoid doing it to other people and will always acknowledge where they're coming from and what their perspective is, but it's part of that respect thing. When you give me the equivalent argument of "Hey, they're housing homeless folks in Utah and Vermont, why don't you move there?" To a homeless person in Atlanta, you're telling me that my experience is bullshit and doesn't count. Because in both situations, money just won't appear out of thin air to cover the costs. This also goes hand in hand with that assumption thing.
If I stop responding to the argument, it's because it's not productive and it's either pissing me off or I'm about to get ad hominem on your ass. That latter thing, isn't terribly respectful and while I might do it on my threads if you're being a jackass I'm not going to do it on someone else's.
This shit has been pissing me off to no end for the last month, not so much that I'm seeing it too much, but that I'm watching friendships be destroyed all because someone isn't listening/reading comprehensively. And it's been happening to me. If ever there was a serious divide, it's pretty damned obvious lately. The good thing, at least my f-lists are getting much smaller. Maybe this is nature's way of culling but whatever, if you're one of these people, feel free to put me on your next round of deletions. I'm ok with that.