I honestly think that the answer to your prime question is that we, as a Nation and as a culture have decided to abdicate our sense of responsibility to the group instead of retaining it as an individual and exercising it.
Gun controlists say that the gun is to blame. Gun rightists say that the lack of armed people is to blame. Yes, these are overly generalized, but at their respective cores, that is what is being said from my perspective.
The schools do not teach failure any more, parents do not instill discipline, self respect or resiliency. I can only speak for what myself and my brother grew up with, but we were brought up with several core ideas.
Respect those around you and respect yourself and carry yourself with pride in who you are, what you are and what you can bring to the table.
When you fall down, you are obligated to get back up, no matter how hard it is, and if you can't do it on your own, ask for help. Knowing when you are in over your head and knowing how to swallow your pride and ask for help is a critical life skill.
What I see is a lack of that. Granted I have little room to speak because I choose not to have children, but I see it all too often. People that have children don't know why they want to be parents and abdicate the raising of that child to the schools, television and pop culture.
It would be rude of me to point out what I think is wrong without proposing a solution, so here are some of my ideas.
Parenting classes taught in the schools. Finding a way to remove the stigma from mental healthcare and allowing for better access to in-patient healthcare versus just tossing the mentally ill in jail. We, as a country need to find community where we live and reach out to those that live around us and not just through the church where we only see people like ourselves.
I don't know where we got away from it, but it still takes a village to raise a child perspective and context are essential for developing minds especially in our ever-chaning world.
I totally agree with you. I think we're kinda saying mostly the same thing, just different phrasing and from different perspectives. Lack of involved parenting is a huge issue (but from what it sounds like, this guy had a very involved mother). We've pretty much failed these kids on all levels.
While I do think we need to work on dealing with mental health issues, I'm waiting on actual specifics on this guy, because so far it's all supposition that he had mental health issues. His family easily had access to help for him, if it was needed, so this wasn't an access thing. Maybe a denial issue, but this kid didn't come from the inner city, or even lower to mid-middle class America. He was upper middle class.
We got away from it when we decided that everything was ok. That there are no boundaries and saying "no" became taboo.
Gun controlists say that the gun is to blame. Gun rightists say that the lack of armed people is to blame. Yes, these are overly generalized, but at their respective cores, that is what is being said from my perspective.
The schools do not teach failure any more, parents do not instill discipline, self respect or resiliency. I can only speak for what myself and my brother grew up with, but we were brought up with several core ideas.
Respect those around you and respect yourself and carry yourself with pride in who you are, what you are and what you can bring to the table.
When you fall down, you are obligated to get back up, no matter how hard it is, and if you can't do it on your own, ask for help. Knowing when you are in over your head and knowing how to swallow your pride and ask for help is a critical life skill.
What I see is a lack of that. Granted I have little room to speak because I choose not to have children, but I see it all too often. People that have children don't know why they want to be parents and abdicate the raising of that child to the schools, television and pop culture.
It would be rude of me to point out what I think is wrong without proposing a solution, so here are some of my ideas.
Parenting classes taught in the schools.
Finding a way to remove the stigma from mental healthcare and allowing for better access to in-patient healthcare versus just tossing the mentally ill in jail.
We, as a country need to find community where we live and reach out to those that live around us and not just through the church where we only see people like ourselves.
I don't know where we got away from it, but it still takes a village to raise a child perspective and context are essential for developing minds especially in our ever-chaning world.
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While I do think we need to work on dealing with mental health issues, I'm waiting on actual specifics on this guy, because so far it's all supposition that he had mental health issues. His family easily had access to help for him, if it was needed, so this wasn't an access thing. Maybe a denial issue, but this kid didn't come from the inner city, or even lower to mid-middle class America. He was upper middle class.
We got away from it when we decided that everything was ok. That there are no boundaries and saying "no" became taboo.
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