Using the Bathroom
I keep meaning to post but never know what to say. So far, there is TONS of drama at work. Oh, and I found out that at my last job (you know, with the psycho boss) that my replacement as quit already.
Anyways, I won't go into all the boring details about my life but I will vent about one thing: the bathrooom. As most of you know it's hard for people like me to pee in genderred restrooms. Back in November a lot of the women on our office floor were giving me evil eyes, staring at me, yelling at me, and actually blocking my way from enterring the women's restroom. I told my ED about it and suggested that I write a memo to the other offices on the floor explaining why using the bathroom is a human right. So, I did. And it rocks. I wrote about gendernonconforming people of all types and why gender presentation is important to all of us, we just may express it differently. I talked about how safety is an issue for them but also for genderqueers which is why we need to choose the bathroom that feels safest to us. Then I had a checklist of what to do and not to do if they thought someone was in the wrong restroom.
I handed it in in early December. Nothing happened. So in January when the Associate Director was hired I asked her to inquire about the status of the bathroom memo. She then came back to me and said she read it and asked me to revise a few things. So, I did and resubmitted it in January.
Well, it is now April. 3 weeks ago I wrote an email to the AD and told her that I was personally offended that this memo has not gone out and that using the bathroom is a basic right and that for the protection and concern of all of our staff, volunteers, board members, and membership this memo needs to go out. I gave her two weeks to do it.
That was 3 weeks ago. To date. Nothing has happened. All they need to do is make copies and talk to TWO other offices. Not 4, not 5, not 10, but TWO other offices. Meanwhile, I have to pee multiple times a day. I've used the men's room a lot but they give me weird looks too.
I'm ready to send another angry email. They all use male pronouns with me, which is a start...except for one person who refuses because she see's me as a butch woman...but....they aren't proving to me that they can handle trans issues. It's not even a trans issue, it's a gender nonconforming issue which deals with a lot of our community.
Any thoughts or suggestions about next steps? I am dreaming about this at night. Clearly, I'm pissed.
Anyways, I won't go into all the boring details about my life but I will vent about one thing: the bathrooom. As most of you know it's hard for people like me to pee in genderred restrooms. Back in November a lot of the women on our office floor were giving me evil eyes, staring at me, yelling at me, and actually blocking my way from enterring the women's restroom. I told my ED about it and suggested that I write a memo to the other offices on the floor explaining why using the bathroom is a human right. So, I did. And it rocks. I wrote about gendernonconforming people of all types and why gender presentation is important to all of us, we just may express it differently. I talked about how safety is an issue for them but also for genderqueers which is why we need to choose the bathroom that feels safest to us. Then I had a checklist of what to do and not to do if they thought someone was in the wrong restroom.
I handed it in in early December. Nothing happened. So in January when the Associate Director was hired I asked her to inquire about the status of the bathroom memo. She then came back to me and said she read it and asked me to revise a few things. So, I did and resubmitted it in January.
Well, it is now April. 3 weeks ago I wrote an email to the AD and told her that I was personally offended that this memo has not gone out and that using the bathroom is a basic right and that for the protection and concern of all of our staff, volunteers, board members, and membership this memo needs to go out. I gave her two weeks to do it.
That was 3 weeks ago. To date. Nothing has happened. All they need to do is make copies and talk to TWO other offices. Not 4, not 5, not 10, but TWO other offices. Meanwhile, I have to pee multiple times a day. I've used the men's room a lot but they give me weird looks too.
I'm ready to send another angry email. They all use male pronouns with me, which is a start...except for one person who refuses because she see's me as a butch woman...but....they aren't proving to me that they can handle trans issues. It's not even a trans issue, it's a gender nonconforming issue which deals with a lot of our community.
Any thoughts or suggestions about next steps? I am dreaming about this at night. Clearly, I'm pissed.