New Dilemma
Thanks for all of your advice about the pronoun issue. I'm still not sure what I am going to do but I am giving it lots of thought. I am now also giving lots of thought as to whether or not I'll even take the job.
I know that some money is better than no money but what I really want more than anything is to be at a job for a long time. Like, more than two years. I want to get settled and feel like I belong somewhere and have contributed a lot. I"m not sure I could do that on the salary they are offering me. They said that in November they will rethink the salary based on my performance but what if they only raise it by like $2,000. I need at least $5,000. No joke. This salary is a $13,000 cut not including the conversion from USD to CND. So, it's actually more like a $15 - 16,000 cut.
I'm really stressing. Should I call the ED and talk to her about my concerns and be honest? Should I just take the job and be happy that I am making anything? Or should I wait and apply to jobs only in my salary range and then be content with having enough money for Indigo and I to do what we need? But what if another job doesn't come along? Or what if they don't raise my salary substantially? And can I even expect them to when I haven't even been working there for more than two months?
I'm torn. I was really depressed last night and worried. I thought getting a job would make me happy, but it just has me stressed out. Has anyone experienced anything like this before? Are there any upper management folks out there who know how they would like to be approached about this? Sorry for all the cries for help but I"m just really stressing and don't know what to do. Plus my phone to the states isn't working right now so there is no one I can call for advice. :(
EDIT: Okay...so I think I've done enough panicking. I'm just going to take the job. Maybe this isn't the one that will last me ten years, but it will get my foot in the door and I can make some meaningful connections and do some important work. Then in a year we can reaccess our financial situation and see if we need to make changes. How does that sound?
I know that some money is better than no money but what I really want more than anything is to be at a job for a long time. Like, more than two years. I want to get settled and feel like I belong somewhere and have contributed a lot. I"m not sure I could do that on the salary they are offering me. They said that in November they will rethink the salary based on my performance but what if they only raise it by like $2,000. I need at least $5,000. No joke. This salary is a $13,000 cut not including the conversion from USD to CND. So, it's actually more like a $15 - 16,000 cut.
I'm really stressing. Should I call the ED and talk to her about my concerns and be honest? Should I just take the job and be happy that I am making anything? Or should I wait and apply to jobs only in my salary range and then be content with having enough money for Indigo and I to do what we need? But what if another job doesn't come along? Or what if they don't raise my salary substantially? And can I even expect them to when I haven't even been working there for more than two months?
I'm torn. I was really depressed last night and worried. I thought getting a job would make me happy, but it just has me stressed out. Has anyone experienced anything like this before? Are there any upper management folks out there who know how they would like to be approached about this? Sorry for all the cries for help but I"m just really stressing and don't know what to do. Plus my phone to the states isn't working right now so there is no one I can call for advice. :(
EDIT: Okay...so I think I've done enough panicking. I'm just going to take the job. Maybe this isn't the one that will last me ten years, but it will get my foot in the door and I can make some meaningful connections and do some important work. Then in a year we can reaccess our financial situation and see if we need to make changes. How does that sound?