Relationship Semantics
Last night JR wanted to know if I would agree to be his "girlfriend." Yes, it was a silly text note with "check yes or no" but the intent was certainly serious. I decided it was best to wait on such a decision and I told him as such. Things are going well and this is still new, so why worry about the title? As a compromise, I agreed that we can at least date exclusively. I really am happy with that - I do not have any multi-dating desires. So does that make me a hipocrit? Exclusive but not together?
In any event, JR is ok with whatever I want to do. I just really don't want to rush it. So I told him there was another "trial" on Saturday via a get-together involving troupatour (thanks). It's hard to say no to something you want, but I need plenty of outside perspective. I know I have the ability to latch on quickly and become consumed. So, I'm trying to avoid that. Boundaries are good and for now and I need to keep them. He seems good with that. As long as we continue to spend time together, he seems good with everything.
And in order to put things in further perspective, I made an appointment with a therapist. I won't get to see her until March 24th, so that will give me another "boundary" of sorts. Therapy comes before committment this time. And I think I need to express that to JR this evening to keep things honest and open. Knowing someone has issues and being able to deal with them when they come up are two different things. He may say he's ok with me having issues, but me telling him I have issues and him seeing them up close and personal (and dealing with them) are two different things. Time... I think I just need time...
In any event, JR is ok with whatever I want to do. I just really don't want to rush it. So I told him there was another "trial" on Saturday via a get-together involving troupatour (thanks). It's hard to say no to something you want, but I need plenty of outside perspective. I know I have the ability to latch on quickly and become consumed. So, I'm trying to avoid that. Boundaries are good and for now and I need to keep them. He seems good with that. As long as we continue to spend time together, he seems good with everything.
And in order to put things in further perspective, I made an appointment with a therapist. I won't get to see her until March 24th, so that will give me another "boundary" of sorts. Therapy comes before committment this time. And I think I need to express that to JR this evening to keep things honest and open. Knowing someone has issues and being able to deal with them when they come up are two different things. He may say he's ok with me having issues, but me telling him I have issues and him seeing them up close and personal (and dealing with them) are two different things. Time... I think I just need time...