Re: "Sanctuary" Lesbianismjordan179March 6 2007, 21:36:06 UTC
The morals of the sexual revolution, sanctioning casual sexuality and heartless behavior towards one's lovers as "normal" and treating committment and love as if they were pathological conditions, is bound to create a mating environment on the average hostile to female interests, because in a system of more or less random promiscuity it is the women who are left caring for the babies which result (and result they do, even with some effort spent on contraception). Furthermore, female as opposed to male psychology, tuned by hormonal releases, has been honed on Darwin's wheel to seek supportive mates rather than random sexual partners: humans are not bonobos (even bonobo sex is more affectionate and alliance-forming than truly random, and humans do not live in the small bands of 50 or less within which this sort of arrangement is practical).
A natural and fairly sane response of a woman who may be rather average and thus not have the emotional and moral strength to defy the sexual expectations of mainstream campus society is to find a mode of behavior in which she does not have to fend off constant casual male sexual advances. Declaring lesbianism works: she will, of course, have to deal with female sexual advances, but these tend to be both gentler and more likely to be accompanied by sincere emotional attachment.
This also, by the way, explains some "bed death" (*) -- one or both of the parties to the lesbian relationship may not be all that much of a lesbian, but rather a bisexual -- possibly even a heterosexually-inclined bisexual -- trying to find a socially-acceptable way to avoid being promiscuious. As I mentioned, such a former sexual relationship frequently evolves into a valuable lifelong friendship (probably more frequently than heterosexual ones, in fact) so it may not be an irrational decision on the part of the participants.
(*) The tendency of some lesbian relationships to die sexually even while they remain strong in affectionate and social terms.
A natural and fairly sane response of a woman who may be rather average and thus not have the emotional and moral strength to defy the sexual expectations of mainstream campus society is to find a mode of behavior in which she does not have to fend off constant casual male sexual advances. Declaring lesbianism works: she will, of course, have to deal with female sexual advances, but these tend to be both gentler and more likely to be accompanied by sincere emotional attachment.
This also, by the way, explains some "bed death" (*) -- one or both of the parties to the lesbian relationship may not be all that much of a lesbian, but rather a bisexual -- possibly even a heterosexually-inclined bisexual -- trying to find a socially-acceptable way to avoid being promiscuious. As I mentioned, such a former sexual relationship frequently evolves into a valuable lifelong friendship (probably more frequently than heterosexual ones, in fact) so it may not be an irrational decision on the part of the participants.
(*) The tendency of some lesbian relationships to die sexually even while they remain strong in affectionate and social terms.
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