Kind hearts are more than coronets
Hi, all. I'm past due for an update.
I guess I should start with the biggest news, the change in marital status. The Sunday after Thanksgiving, my husband hauled off and hit our son. I was more than willing to overlook his neglecting and screaming at me, but anyone who messes with my child is not welcome in my home. The divorce should be final around April. (He's under the impression he can actually get joint custody, even though the custody investigator strongly begs to differ. So we're still straightening out the details.)
Everyone is "so sorry" and says "it's too bad things didn't work out". But you know, I'm really not. I guess I haven't really loved him for a good, long time and only positive things have been happening in my life. For the first time in six years, I have my own home, my own schedule, my own rules. I'm able to raise my children as I see fit, no compromises. I was able to take my half of the tax return and buy a new washer and dryer and then put the rest into savings without having to discuss or argue about how the money was spent.
As much as I hate to quote a pop tart like Jessica Simpson, she said something that really struck a chord with me: "When you walk away from something and there's no gravitational pull, you know you did the right thing." I wasn't heartbroken when we split - I was more upset about things like not having the family together at Christmas (stupid holiday commercials!) or everyone all happy-dappy at Artie's graduation. But Artie is doing so much better now that there's no fighting or tension. He's having way less tantrums and is actually becoming a sweet, cuddly little guy (albiet loud and hyper). It's like a black cloud has been lifted from over our home.
Anyway, that is the reason I haven't been online as much lately. He took the cable and the internet access with him when he left (he got them through his work). I'm able to get on about once a week or so from Mummy and Daddy's computer. I must say, it's been totally worth it, just having him out of my home.
So, now I just have the little things to worry about. Finding work, starting school in August, taking care of and loving the hell out of the perfect little people who live with me. If I knew it would be this easy to be single (and that I'd enjoy it this much) I would have kicked him out long ago.
I'd like to close by apologizing for any typos. It's 3:30 in the morning. Also, thanks a million to anyone who didn't boot me from their friends list even though I haven't updated in forever. Anyone who wants to talk, please email me or send me a PM through That Fabulous website.
I guess I should start with the biggest news, the change in marital status. The Sunday after Thanksgiving, my husband hauled off and hit our son. I was more than willing to overlook his neglecting and screaming at me, but anyone who messes with my child is not welcome in my home. The divorce should be final around April. (He's under the impression he can actually get joint custody, even though the custody investigator strongly begs to differ. So we're still straightening out the details.)
Everyone is "so sorry" and says "it's too bad things didn't work out". But you know, I'm really not. I guess I haven't really loved him for a good, long time and only positive things have been happening in my life. For the first time in six years, I have my own home, my own schedule, my own rules. I'm able to raise my children as I see fit, no compromises. I was able to take my half of the tax return and buy a new washer and dryer and then put the rest into savings without having to discuss or argue about how the money was spent.
As much as I hate to quote a pop tart like Jessica Simpson, she said something that really struck a chord with me: "When you walk away from something and there's no gravitational pull, you know you did the right thing." I wasn't heartbroken when we split - I was more upset about things like not having the family together at Christmas (stupid holiday commercials!) or everyone all happy-dappy at Artie's graduation. But Artie is doing so much better now that there's no fighting or tension. He's having way less tantrums and is actually becoming a sweet, cuddly little guy (albiet loud and hyper). It's like a black cloud has been lifted from over our home.
Anyway, that is the reason I haven't been online as much lately. He took the cable and the internet access with him when he left (he got them through his work). I'm able to get on about once a week or so from Mummy and Daddy's computer. I must say, it's been totally worth it, just having him out of my home.
So, now I just have the little things to worry about. Finding work, starting school in August, taking care of and loving the hell out of the perfect little people who live with me. If I knew it would be this easy to be single (and that I'd enjoy it this much) I would have kicked him out long ago.
I'd like to close by apologizing for any typos. It's 3:30 in the morning. Also, thanks a million to anyone who didn't boot me from their friends list even though I haven't updated in forever. Anyone who wants to talk, please email me or send me a PM through That Fabulous website.