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[fornoraison]

Hello all,

I feel as though no one really uses these any more. But who cares this post is mostely for me and figuring out my life. Once again i findmyself back in college, taking a break from the mounds of work that i have. and here i am again in the throws of a relationship and wondering what exactly that means, what is expected and what is the worth.

so what is the definition of a relationship?
i have always stated that love is a state where you care so deeply about another person that all you care about is their happiness and well being and you forgo your own in the expectation that the other person involved is also looking out for your happiness, thus everyone wins

but is that simply the honeymoon phase, the complete obsession, passion and irrational but also best part of a relationship? does this want to forever please the other persist always?

is the next phase just habit, staying to stay, because you always have, because you know mentally you love and care about the other person rather than simply feeling it

and is that phase really worth it at our age?

a relationship should enhance your character and your state of happiness, it should elevate, inspire and motivate, it should encourage you to be your best and put bring out the best aspects of your personality, it should breed confidence and radiance

and if it doesn't anymore? how long to you stick around waiting for it to fix?

if you lose sight of yourself and who you are?

if suddenly the negative aspects of your personality come out is it worth it?

and who's to blame, both parties, him for making me feel this way, or me for letting it change me