note to self
Dating someone might have its highs and lows. I am an aggressive proponent of the view that dating someone must give you qualitatively and quantitatively more highs such that the lows don't matter as much. Regardless of my beliefs, I understand that getting frustrated is part of being in a relationship. That is fine.
However, dating someone should not render you emotionally stunted and imbecilic. You don't go beyond caring about and being attached to the person. You don't become obsessive and your happiness is not completely at another person's beck and call. You are dating a person, not having a relationship your own negative emotions.
It should not mean that if a person is hurting you, you let the hurt the person has caused you to damage and/or forget about the other aspects of your life - your goals, your work, your friends and your family.
I have realized what is the best way to hurt and push away the ones who really care about you.
1) You channel all your negativity, pain and Isabella Swan longing-ness
2) You get their attention
3) You make them watch you
If you think you're not strong enough, fine. But remember, if you aren't ready to be strong enough, your friends can't help you, your friends can't make you happy, your friends can't relate, regardless of how strong they are. So talk to your friends when you're strong enough. Because by making them watch, you are telling them to jump off a cliff with you as you follow after your loved one. Your friends will follow you even if no one is following them.
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I am determined to not let anyone take away my now, just because that person might have already taken away something in my past. The now is what I have and what I will always have.
However, dating someone should not render you emotionally stunted and imbecilic. You don't go beyond caring about and being attached to the person. You don't become obsessive and your happiness is not completely at another person's beck and call. You are dating a person, not having a relationship your own negative emotions.
It should not mean that if a person is hurting you, you let the hurt the person has caused you to damage and/or forget about the other aspects of your life - your goals, your work, your friends and your family.
I have realized what is the best way to hurt and push away the ones who really care about you.
1) You channel all your negativity, pain and Isabella Swan longing-ness
2) You get their attention
3) You make them watch you
If you think you're not strong enough, fine. But remember, if you aren't ready to be strong enough, your friends can't help you, your friends can't make you happy, your friends can't relate, regardless of how strong they are. So talk to your friends when you're strong enough. Because by making them watch, you are telling them to jump off a cliff with you as you follow after your loved one. Your friends will follow you even if no one is following them.
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I am determined to not let anyone take away my now, just because that person might have already taken away something in my past. The now is what I have and what I will always have.