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Agility this morning saw Bru in a very happy place. Alone time without Corvey and the white fluff ball Lulu. Maybe its just me but I'm not smitten with the white mop, perhaps it is the yipping. Anyway Bru and I managed to have her start the course back 3 obstacles away from where I was, I was able to call her over the start jump, direct her to her left over a panel jump and turn quickly to her left to take the tunnel all while I was 50 feet away from behind the far side of the tunnel. SWEET. We communicated very well and it was fun for us both. Brigid and I drove out after agility to Palm Desert to visit Gina. She hasn't been coming to class since her husband has been getting cancer treatments. We met her at a great Mexican restaurant and she was pleased to have a break from the house. She has started going to a caretakers class but its emphasis isn't what she needs, the group was dealing with end of care issues and she is still fighting to keep him alive. I suggested she look for some DD, developmentally disabled as those caretakers are dealing with living issues. In ten years the support system for caretakers has grown logarithmically, not only are the networks available but they very in many aspects. She then drove us on a tour of the area, very upscale so Brigid and I enjoyed snarking how we so don't fit in. A few points she dropped bombs like how she has power of attorney now, and how she got the hospice paperwork. So her fears are very real. Doug called as we drove so that cut the tour short. I think this was the longest she has been away from him in 6 months.
Yesterday my mother called and it finished with her hanging up on me and my not calling her back. It is difficult to walk this way. She has been making choices that are obviously detrimental to her treatment and I pointed this out. Damn me for cutting to the chase. I'm here and can offer support but to continue to delay treatment is attempting suicide.