Don't your feet get cold in the winter time, the sky won't snow and the sun won't shine...
...it's hard to tell the night time from the day.
Since nothing interesting is happening lately, other than a February tornado (and the cute reporter that interviewed me in Terre Haute) and my potential foray into short term investing, I present instead an interesting article from last week’s issue of Newsweek. I find it applicable to my own generation instead of baby boomers. Oh, and it is too damn cold.
Poker Buddies for Life
In sickness and in health, many boomers turn to their close friends, not family, to get the support they need.
By Peg Tyre
Newsweek
Feb. 20, 2006 issue - Twenty years ago, when writer Trisha Arlin bought a two-bedroom co-op in Brooklyn, N.Y., she didn't know that some of her neighbors would become as close as family. At first they helped each other out with little things like plant watering and pet sitting. But then, when Debbie and her husband, Wrolf, who lived in 1C, had children, Trisha started celebrating some holidays with them, even though she had a sister living nearby. When Trisha was immobilized by an injury, Chris from 4B cleaned her apartment and fed her by hand. Over the years, Debbie and Wrolf expanded into the apartment below and Chris moved to Florida, but Trisha says they've never been closer. "Would I jump in front of a truck to save them?" asks Trisha, who is 52 and single. "Yeah, I guess I would."
As boomers move through their middle years, many are delighted to find that they have a friend-sometimes a network of friends-who is every bit as close as their own brothers and sisters. Psychologists call the phenomenon "family by choice," and say it is an inevitable-and healthy-response to 40 years of social upheaval. It's not new. Gay people have long formed de facto families, and much has been made in recent years of the "urban tribes" developed among well-educated twentysomethings. But now boomers are following suit. Many find that their parents are elderly or have died, siblings live in different time zones and relationships with distant family members, while fine, are often rooted in a sense of obligation, not affection. As the nuclear family grows weaker, says evolutionary psychologist Kent Bailey, "increasingly, we are in a position to choose the people we are around. And the people we choose are the ones we enjoy."
Boomers, of course, didn't invent close friendships. But 50 years ago, opportunities to create and maintain a strong social network were limited. In the 1950s, middle-aged people were more likely to get and stay married and most women worked at home. When people made friends they usually picked from a relatively small pool of family members, neighbors and co-workers. Boomers, on the other hand, attended college in record numbers, giving them more opportunity to bond with like-minded people. They married later, divorced more and changed jobs more frequently. Women entered the workplace in massive numbers-surging from 30 percent in 1950 to 59 percent in 2004-and found plenty of companionship there, too. With more disposable income and more communications technology, boomers found new ways to stay in touch-traveling in groups and even making plans to retire together.
Back in 1959, Hank Forrer and four other male chemistry majors at DePaul University in Chicago started playing poker and eating pizza together every Friday night. Fast-forward more than four decades. Forrer and his buddies live with their wives and families in different parts of the country. Unlike their fathers, who might have sent an annual Christmas card, these men e-mail and speak regularly by phone and vacation together whenever they can. On these trips, they shop and sightsee with their wives, but they reserve Friday nights for poker. "It's just understood," says Forrer, "that we'll be getting together for the rest of our lives."
There could be many reunions ahead. For years, studies have shown that people with extensive social ties live longer-up to 2.5 years longer than people who are isolated. Close friendships may provide the most life-enhancing kind of social contact. In a study published in 2005, researchers in Australia followed 1,477 men and women older than 70. After 10 years, scientists determined that people who had contact with close friends lived longer than people who relied only on a spouse or children.
Patricia San Pedro, of Coral Gables, Fla., says she was an only child until she met her "sister" Annie San Roman. No one would mistake them for twins. San Pedro, 49, is a long-divorced public-relations executive who believes in shamans and loves a big party. San Roman, 47, is a traditional Roman Catholic and something of a homebody. They watch out for each other, though. After the hurricanes last year, Annie helped Patricia rake leaves off her roof. Patricia helped Annie negotiate a good price for her new car. Together, they discovered the healing power of Oreos. Patricia believes that her friendship with Annie could extend her life. It's already making each day a little richer.
© 2006 MSNBC.com
URL: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/11298737/site/newsweek/
Since nothing interesting is happening lately, other than a February tornado (and the cute reporter that interviewed me in Terre Haute) and my potential foray into short term investing, I present instead an interesting article from last week’s issue of Newsweek. I find it applicable to my own generation instead of baby boomers. Oh, and it is too damn cold.
Poker Buddies for Life
In sickness and in health, many boomers turn to their close friends, not family, to get the support they need.
By Peg Tyre
Newsweek
Feb. 20, 2006 issue - Twenty years ago, when writer Trisha Arlin bought a two-bedroom co-op in Brooklyn, N.Y., she didn't know that some of her neighbors would become as close as family. At first they helped each other out with little things like plant watering and pet sitting. But then, when Debbie and her husband, Wrolf, who lived in 1C, had children, Trisha started celebrating some holidays with them, even though she had a sister living nearby. When Trisha was immobilized by an injury, Chris from 4B cleaned her apartment and fed her by hand. Over the years, Debbie and Wrolf expanded into the apartment below and Chris moved to Florida, but Trisha says they've never been closer. "Would I jump in front of a truck to save them?" asks Trisha, who is 52 and single. "Yeah, I guess I would."
As boomers move through their middle years, many are delighted to find that they have a friend-sometimes a network of friends-who is every bit as close as their own brothers and sisters. Psychologists call the phenomenon "family by choice," and say it is an inevitable-and healthy-response to 40 years of social upheaval. It's not new. Gay people have long formed de facto families, and much has been made in recent years of the "urban tribes" developed among well-educated twentysomethings. But now boomers are following suit. Many find that their parents are elderly or have died, siblings live in different time zones and relationships with distant family members, while fine, are often rooted in a sense of obligation, not affection. As the nuclear family grows weaker, says evolutionary psychologist Kent Bailey, "increasingly, we are in a position to choose the people we are around. And the people we choose are the ones we enjoy."
Boomers, of course, didn't invent close friendships. But 50 years ago, opportunities to create and maintain a strong social network were limited. In the 1950s, middle-aged people were more likely to get and stay married and most women worked at home. When people made friends they usually picked from a relatively small pool of family members, neighbors and co-workers. Boomers, on the other hand, attended college in record numbers, giving them more opportunity to bond with like-minded people. They married later, divorced more and changed jobs more frequently. Women entered the workplace in massive numbers-surging from 30 percent in 1950 to 59 percent in 2004-and found plenty of companionship there, too. With more disposable income and more communications technology, boomers found new ways to stay in touch-traveling in groups and even making plans to retire together.
Back in 1959, Hank Forrer and four other male chemistry majors at DePaul University in Chicago started playing poker and eating pizza together every Friday night. Fast-forward more than four decades. Forrer and his buddies live with their wives and families in different parts of the country. Unlike their fathers, who might have sent an annual Christmas card, these men e-mail and speak regularly by phone and vacation together whenever they can. On these trips, they shop and sightsee with their wives, but they reserve Friday nights for poker. "It's just understood," says Forrer, "that we'll be getting together for the rest of our lives."
There could be many reunions ahead. For years, studies have shown that people with extensive social ties live longer-up to 2.5 years longer than people who are isolated. Close friendships may provide the most life-enhancing kind of social contact. In a study published in 2005, researchers in Australia followed 1,477 men and women older than 70. After 10 years, scientists determined that people who had contact with close friends lived longer than people who relied only on a spouse or children.
Patricia San Pedro, of Coral Gables, Fla., says she was an only child until she met her "sister" Annie San Roman. No one would mistake them for twins. San Pedro, 49, is a long-divorced public-relations executive who believes in shamans and loves a big party. San Roman, 47, is a traditional Roman Catholic and something of a homebody. They watch out for each other, though. After the hurricanes last year, Annie helped Patricia rake leaves off her roof. Patricia helped Annie negotiate a good price for her new car. Together, they discovered the healing power of Oreos. Patricia believes that her friendship with Annie could extend her life. It's already making each day a little richer.
© 2006 MSNBC.com
URL: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/11298737/site/newsweek/