Advice From My Lovely Flist?
Right, so I wrote down a longer private entry where I cried my eyes out and wrote a lot of terribly soul-bearing and incoherent stuff, so now I feel like I can condense some things into a clean and intelligible whole.
Background
Alarmingly, I've found myself becoming the asexual 'spokesperson' to many students at my university. This is strange for me ( Read more... )
Background
Alarmingly, I've found myself becoming the asexual 'spokesperson' to many students at my university. This is strange for me ( Read more... )
Regardless of one's awareness of media and culture's impact on oneself, there is so much of it around you, now and while you're growing up, that it's impossible to declare yourself completely free of its influence. Maybe you have bought into the Grand Romance ideal, and there is a part of you that unconsciously hyped The Kiss, but that is not an indictment of your logic, your emotional landscape, or your sexual/romantic identification.
I think one kiss is not determinate of anything. There have been men and women in the past whom I thought I was sexually attracted to, but when I kissed them, I felt nothing. It could be that this particular girl is simply someone who did nothing for you kissing-wise. Or maybe kissing just does nothing for you period, and that's all right, too. Kissing is not the be-all and end-all of intimacy. Maybe you're a hug&cuddle person. Maybe you're a handholding person. Or maybe you're none of those things at all and it's a slow walk toward finding the thing that expresses your affection toward another person.
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