The Trouble With Teens - Part 2, or "Who are you and what have you done with my child?"
I would have to guess that since the dawn of time, just about everyone who has entered into parenthood has complained about never truly being prepared for the job. I imagine that Cro-Magnon man had considerable tribulations trying to keep their children from wandering out and being eaten by cave bears. I’m sure that parents in the dark ages spent ( Read more... )
When I was a teenager, my mother did not allow me to do ANYTHING. Color my hair, even get a second hole pierced in my ears, or wear anything that she did not approve of. As I hit 15-16 years of age, it completely backfired. I felt so sheltered, that I ventured into many worlds that I wish now I never would have. I rebelled to the point of no return. When I turned 18, I got 8 piercings over the course of 4 years, Dyed my hair at least 200 times, had a closet full of black clothes, and got my first tattoo. I have thankfully outgrown all of the rebelling since my daughter was born (except for my freshly pierced nose, hey the eybrow/tongue/bellybutton piercings had to come out with a newborn grabbing at them right?! I had to compensate once she hit toddler stage lol), but I have a new aspect on how I personally will handle these types of situations when my daughter comes into that age. If you let things go in moderation, the backlash will be much less harsh. I love that you let your daughter dye her hair, it's an excellent form of expression that is not permanent. BUT, if she wants her lip pierced THAT bad, I'd let her go for it. Eventually she's either A. going to outgrow it, or B. come to YOU when she thinks she wants another, instead of having someone pierce it for her on a pool table.(yes thats how my bellybutton was done lol) Piercings are also NOT permanent, I have had quite a few piercings with only one scar from my first eyebrow ring that literally fell out. I do agree on waiting for the tattoo's though. My first one was after my daughter was born and it is her name, something I KNOW I will never regret or change my mind on. I had some crazy ideas beforehand but thankfully my mom DID teach me good judgement and I always talked myself out of them lol.
I know this is longwinded, but my point is this. A piering is a lot easier to agree on because eventually she's going to get rid of it, especially when she starts working. Make a deal that when she is around family and such she has to wear a clear retainer. That way it's the best of both worlds!!!
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This piece was meant to be humorous, and as such was exaggerated for entertainment purposes.
Yes, there is a no piercing rule that stands (not until you're 18) mostly because I have two older kids who already had to live through that rule (oddly, neither one actually got the piercing they so desperately wanted when they were younger, although they are now 22 and 20) and also because we have a hard enough time with the (ear only) piercings they already do have (infections, metal allergies), but that information doesn't really tickle the funnybone, ya know ;)
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