Fluttr and being fired
My release:
Strangeness. I feel no need to sugar coat what I experienced in all of this. After a modest attempt (by writing an agenda on very flexible possibilities for the band’s future) to gracefully work things through (I felt our issues were trivial and manageable), the four remaining members decided to have troy inform me that they didn’t want me to continue in the full band. It felt uncomfortable and a bit cold, because I was not involved in the decision making in any way. I knew that we were all very tired, and that something was needing to change, but the decision felt laced with spite, fear and exhaustion. I’m not here to blame any one, I just wanted to express my sadness around not being heard while things were in the works. Vess and Val later contacted me with wishes to continue with the girls act, and though I felt weird about how things went down, I agreed. I do enjoy singing to the music, and that’s what really made the difference. I still feel that it was rash, and that there would have been wiser ways to approach this, and possibly “phase me out” over time. I felt I gave the utmost of flexibility in the options I outlined in the agenda I wrote up. My agenda was not considered. I guess that any of my suggestions were not what they had as a vision for the next incarnation of the band. I wish I was more involved in what was to happen, though, and I felt things could have been executed in a more compassionate manner. I feel a lot better about things now, because I realize that the situation must have been negative for me. I know I was no saint while in the band, but I expected a meeting where everyone looked me in the eye, and allowed me to express what I felt and thought. I would have never quit.
K’sara.
Kara
Strangeness. I feel no need to sugar coat what I experienced in all of this. After a modest attempt (by writing an agenda on very flexible possibilities for the band’s future) to gracefully work things through (I felt our issues were trivial and manageable), the four remaining members decided to have troy inform me that they didn’t want me to continue in the full band. It felt uncomfortable and a bit cold, because I was not involved in the decision making in any way. I knew that we were all very tired, and that something was needing to change, but the decision felt laced with spite, fear and exhaustion. I’m not here to blame any one, I just wanted to express my sadness around not being heard while things were in the works. Vess and Val later contacted me with wishes to continue with the girls act, and though I felt weird about how things went down, I agreed. I do enjoy singing to the music, and that’s what really made the difference. I still feel that it was rash, and that there would have been wiser ways to approach this, and possibly “phase me out” over time. I felt I gave the utmost of flexibility in the options I outlined in the agenda I wrote up. My agenda was not considered. I guess that any of my suggestions were not what they had as a vision for the next incarnation of the band. I wish I was more involved in what was to happen, though, and I felt things could have been executed in a more compassionate manner. I feel a lot better about things now, because I realize that the situation must have been negative for me. I know I was no saint while in the band, but I expected a meeting where everyone looked me in the eye, and allowed me to express what I felt and thought. I would have never quit.
K’sara.
Kara