ugh...
So, I have what I believe to be a major dilemma. Here goes...
Bobby and I have been hanging out with one of his friends from high school, and I really like her. We get along great, she's a lot of fun, and I love hanging out with her. She invited me out to a girls' night next weekend to go to Coyote Joe's, I had to turn her down because we're not going to be home yet. That isn't the dilemma. The dilemma is that she hangs out with Bobby's ex-girlfriend, who is back in town.
To catch you up if I haven't talked about her, they were together for 2 1/2 years, went away to college together, she became a stripper, cheated on him, and broke up with him. Obviously, he was devastated. She was a huge part of his life. She left for Indiana, moved out west...we thought she was in Arizona for good and he would never have to see her again, and I wouldn't have to meet her. Well, a month or two ago we find out that she not only lives back in Michigan, but lives 5 minutes away in an apartment building that we walk by frequently when we go on walks.
Ok, so fast forward. There will be another girls' night that I am invited to I'm sure. I don't ever want to meet this girl, let alone hang out with her. I don't know what it is that I hate about her. I'm terrified of her, and I don't know why. I don't believe that he would leave me for her, but at the same time I'm irrational when it comes to her, she is the only one of his ex's that I feel this way toward. Maybe I'm scared there would be nostalgia or something, maybe that's retarded of me, I don't know. All I know is that I don't want her anywhere near me or him and I don't know what to do. He told me that letting her affect where I hang out and who I hang out with means I'm making her important and that he doesn't see her as important...but I don't know how to not let her affect me. This has been bothering me for a while, but I really started thinking about it yesterday. I just don't know how to handle it, or what to do.
Bobby and I have been hanging out with one of his friends from high school, and I really like her. We get along great, she's a lot of fun, and I love hanging out with her. She invited me out to a girls' night next weekend to go to Coyote Joe's, I had to turn her down because we're not going to be home yet. That isn't the dilemma. The dilemma is that she hangs out with Bobby's ex-girlfriend, who is back in town.
To catch you up if I haven't talked about her, they were together for 2 1/2 years, went away to college together, she became a stripper, cheated on him, and broke up with him. Obviously, he was devastated. She was a huge part of his life. She left for Indiana, moved out west...we thought she was in Arizona for good and he would never have to see her again, and I wouldn't have to meet her. Well, a month or two ago we find out that she not only lives back in Michigan, but lives 5 minutes away in an apartment building that we walk by frequently when we go on walks.
Ok, so fast forward. There will be another girls' night that I am invited to I'm sure. I don't ever want to meet this girl, let alone hang out with her. I don't know what it is that I hate about her. I'm terrified of her, and I don't know why. I don't believe that he would leave me for her, but at the same time I'm irrational when it comes to her, she is the only one of his ex's that I feel this way toward. Maybe I'm scared there would be nostalgia or something, maybe that's retarded of me, I don't know. All I know is that I don't want her anywhere near me or him and I don't know what to do. He told me that letting her affect where I hang out and who I hang out with means I'm making her important and that he doesn't see her as important...but I don't know how to not let her affect me. This has been bothering me for a while, but I really started thinking about it yesterday. I just don't know how to handle it, or what to do.