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Ready for the nerdiest thing I've said in a while?
Right now I'm remembering a quote from the newest Star Trek movie.
Old Spock was speaking to Young Spock, and he told him something along the lines of, "Sometimes you need to forget logic and just do what's right to you."
Oh Leonard Nimoy, how I wish I could listen to you and your advice.
You see, Mr. Spock, I have a bit of a frustrating situation.
I love both of my brothers dearly, but I have this relationship with my oldest brother. He's 10 years older than I am and was one of the biggest supports I had as I grew up. I was often told that he was like a second mom to me, and really, he was. I was born about a month prematurely, which means that I was small and weak. He took care of me and fed me when my mom couldn't easily help me. His motivation and support got me through the mess that was middle school and led me on the right track to graduate from high school with honors.
He is also gay. He's been out to me since I was 11...and you know what? I didn't care when he told me and I don't care now. As far as I am concerned you are who you are and absolutely NOTHING will change that. So I love him just as I love every other person I am friends with regardless of their sexual orientation, race, religion, etc...I love every person that I disagree with and you know what? I know that there are people on my friends list even that disagree with me when I say that I support my gay friends this much. That's ok to me--as long as the disagreements don't turn hostile :)
If there's one memorable lesson he's taught me growing up it's this: you have to be ABSOLUTELY true to yourself and who you are. Because that's exactly what he is--true to himself and non-fake. He came out of the closet and has been open about it ever since. He came out of the closet knowing that my dad and my dad's side of the family come from a stereotypical redneck background. He came out of the closet knowing that his already strained relationship with my father would become worse. He is one of the bravest people I know and he has my utmost admiration for that :)
That being said, I am ridiculously happy for him. He found love and has been with the same man for about 7 years. They are an amazing couple and they compliment one another PERFECTLY. Gay marriage is legal in Iowa and they reside in Illinois. So guess what? They are going to go get married on the 27th. I know that they are having a bigger ceremony here in a few years...but I want to go to this one. This is the one where they legally tie the knot and legally become Mr. and Mr. Enlow-Birnbaum. I would do anything to go to this wedding.
But here's the problem--my school starts on the 20th. I am in 14 hours and would have to miss three days to do this. I would miss one meditation class, one Spanish class, two Sociology classes, and three Calculus classes. I know I can get the assignments and lecture notes from the teachers ahead of time. But that's quite a bit of class to miss and I would have an awesome time catching up. Calc II is the hardest math class one could take and if I miss classes there is a chance I may not pass. Logic dictates that I miss his wedding and stay here...
But what feels right to me is going to his wedding and being there for him. So in this case, if I do what feels right to me, I will be suffering quite a bit in my school work. But if I do what is logical, I will also suffer because I will be missing something important to me.
Tell me, Mr. Spock, what would you do in this case?
Right now I'm remembering a quote from the newest Star Trek movie.
Old Spock was speaking to Young Spock, and he told him something along the lines of, "Sometimes you need to forget logic and just do what's right to you."
Oh Leonard Nimoy, how I wish I could listen to you and your advice.
You see, Mr. Spock, I have a bit of a frustrating situation.
I love both of my brothers dearly, but I have this relationship with my oldest brother. He's 10 years older than I am and was one of the biggest supports I had as I grew up. I was often told that he was like a second mom to me, and really, he was. I was born about a month prematurely, which means that I was small and weak. He took care of me and fed me when my mom couldn't easily help me. His motivation and support got me through the mess that was middle school and led me on the right track to graduate from high school with honors.
He is also gay. He's been out to me since I was 11...and you know what? I didn't care when he told me and I don't care now. As far as I am concerned you are who you are and absolutely NOTHING will change that. So I love him just as I love every other person I am friends with regardless of their sexual orientation, race, religion, etc...I love every person that I disagree with and you know what? I know that there are people on my friends list even that disagree with me when I say that I support my gay friends this much. That's ok to me--as long as the disagreements don't turn hostile :)
If there's one memorable lesson he's taught me growing up it's this: you have to be ABSOLUTELY true to yourself and who you are. Because that's exactly what he is--true to himself and non-fake. He came out of the closet and has been open about it ever since. He came out of the closet knowing that my dad and my dad's side of the family come from a stereotypical redneck background. He came out of the closet knowing that his already strained relationship with my father would become worse. He is one of the bravest people I know and he has my utmost admiration for that :)
That being said, I am ridiculously happy for him. He found love and has been with the same man for about 7 years. They are an amazing couple and they compliment one another PERFECTLY. Gay marriage is legal in Iowa and they reside in Illinois. So guess what? They are going to go get married on the 27th. I know that they are having a bigger ceremony here in a few years...but I want to go to this one. This is the one where they legally tie the knot and legally become Mr. and Mr. Enlow-Birnbaum. I would do anything to go to this wedding.
But here's the problem--my school starts on the 20th. I am in 14 hours and would have to miss three days to do this. I would miss one meditation class, one Spanish class, two Sociology classes, and three Calculus classes. I know I can get the assignments and lecture notes from the teachers ahead of time. But that's quite a bit of class to miss and I would have an awesome time catching up. Calc II is the hardest math class one could take and if I miss classes there is a chance I may not pass. Logic dictates that I miss his wedding and stay here...
But what feels right to me is going to his wedding and being there for him. So in this case, if I do what feels right to me, I will be suffering quite a bit in my school work. But if I do what is logical, I will also suffer because I will be missing something important to me.
Tell me, Mr. Spock, what would you do in this case?