The very first thing to do would be to get help if you can, either from a doctor, if that's an option, or if nothing else, get the support of friends. If that's not an option, or just really uncomfortable ( believe me, it's damned tough at first, still is after all these years) there are lots of support groups around here that will give you all the help and companionship you could possibly need, and most of the people there will have been through it before, are going through the same things, or are close to someone who is/has. Above all though, be honest with yourself. Don't try to shrug it off, because that only makes it hurt more and more with each passing day. As for doing something about it, organization is imperative. Figure out what it's going to take, when you want to do it, and what you're going to have to do to get there. For example, I set myself a deadline on my 27th birthday, I want to be done. Before that, I have to finish college (about a year from now) get a better paying job (probably a few months out of college) If said job is already tolerant of transgendered peoples, I'll break the news to them after establishing that I plan to transition to female in the coming years. If that isn't the case, I keep looking for a job while saving up money with the one I'm at, as well as begin seeing a shrink for preliminary advice to start my transition, and get a head start on my two years of phsychological evaluation. Hopefully by the time the year is up, I'll be in a job where I can start to take hormones and begin living full time in female guise. If I haven't gotten up the courage to before this point, it's time to tell my father. I know he's going to take it roughly, but I also expect him to get over it in a few months. I'm just not sure how over it he'll ever get. I already told my Brother and my Mom, but not my sister, 'cause she'd tell my dad, and I want to be in controll of who I'm out to. Mom was cool with it, thankfully. At the two year point of psycho, I should be able to get two letters of approval, Have been on hormones for a year, completed all of my facial electrolisys, and at least most of the rest of the body, and with any luck, I'll have money for surgery at that point. I also gave myself an ultimatum that I recently fulfilled. I decided that before my next birthday, I would be out to all of my friends, and if they couldn't take it, fuck em, I have plenty of friends who ARE compassionate and understanding of my situation. That went pretty well too. I tended to keep company who were pretty well adjusted to the alternative sexualities. I think I have something like two friends who don't like the cock, and like half my friends are guys. So they all took it pretty well. Now, if you want any further advice, or have any more questions PLEASE ask me, either here, or by email, or on the phone, in person, whatever, I'd be more than happy to elaborate as much as you desire.
The best part about helping people is seeing them pull out of tough spots, or avoid them all together. It just kinda gives me a good feeling to know that I've helped someone along.
The worst part, I have to say, is failing to help myself when I tried to help too much, and thereby failing to help the others I was trying to help and screwing everyone over in the long run, including myself.
The best part about helping people is seeing them pull out of tough spots, or avoid them all together. It just kinda gives me a good feeling to know that I've helped someone along.
The worst part, I have to say, is failing to help myself when I tried to help too much, and thereby failing to help the others I was trying to help and screwing everyone over in the long run, including myself.
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