money matter
This morning, I overheard my boarding house mate talking to her mother while I was getting ready to join a HR seminar. I was turning on the TV to watch some morning news at that time, but I turned it off as soon as I heard her talking while sniffing. I think it's just part of my nature as a psychology student, but I like to listen to people's around me while imagining about what I would do on their situation.
So, this house mate of mine is not exactly your favorite kind of house mate. You know, typically dirty, putting her shoes everywhere on the entryway, washing her dishes only once every other time making it smelly and surrounded by ants, borrowing exactly everything (including money) but never really giving it back, making you uncomfortable cause she bring her boyfriend everyday and he went home only at dawn. Basically, annoying.
But I started to realize somethings aside from the fact that she's annoying. That she got a really bad relationship with her father. A few months back, I heard her talking to her mother about her bike loan. Here's how it goes (blank part is her mother part);
"why is father like that! I was just telling him about my bike loan for this month!"
"..."
"yeah, but he doesn't need to scream at me! he knows I always pay him back when I get my paycheck!"
"..."
"He's always like that! If I knew it's gonna be like this, I wouldn't have take a bike credit!"
Basically, she's talking about how her father seems unwilling to paid for her bike loan even though she's going to pay him back. Telling her how he doesn't have money to pay it first. And then asking her if it's even the correct amount of loan, cause it's so expensive for an ordinary bike. So she got angry and decided to tell her mom just dad.
And this is what I overheard this morning;
"I am ashamed mother. Your soon to be son-in-law is rich, but we're poor. I'm going to be really ashamed if he saw it!"
"..."
"well, it's not a problem. but I am ashamed mother! It's so shameful!"
"..."
"his father got a shop. So is his other family. He's rich mother! We got nothing! Do you know how shameful that is?"
"..."
"I bet father got no iman (more or less like a belief on your religion)! I work mother, I work! Look at him! He's not going to act like that if he got iman!"
I don't even understand how is being poor suddenly connected to a possibility of not having iman. The reason why you got no money doesn't have anything to do with iman! And I don't understand why she keep on blaming her father. If you know that your parents are poor, then work and try to make them rich! Complaining and blaming your father won't change anything.
She used to work regularly. But recently, she always went to work late and coming back early, then he often went on holiday with his boyfriend. And shoes. Oh my God, you know you got no money but you buy shoes like it was water! Now, try to think about the reason why she's not getting rich, okay.
My father is not a rich man. He's not coming from a rich family. He needs to work his ass off for his entire life. It used to be for the sake of his siblings so they could go to school. Now it's for the sake of me and my brother, so we could go to school. My mom once said to me "because you father know how it feels to have nothing, he just want to give you everything so you won't have to feel what he used to feel". With that kind of thought, he worked very hard every day. From an ordinary sales personnel, until he could stand on his own feet, and now owning his own office. See!
Hard work can change anything! If you keep on slacking off from your work, no wonder nothings change with your fate =__=
So, this house mate of mine is not exactly your favorite kind of house mate. You know, typically dirty, putting her shoes everywhere on the entryway, washing her dishes only once every other time making it smelly and surrounded by ants, borrowing exactly everything (including money) but never really giving it back, making you uncomfortable cause she bring her boyfriend everyday and he went home only at dawn. Basically, annoying.
But I started to realize somethings aside from the fact that she's annoying. That she got a really bad relationship with her father. A few months back, I heard her talking to her mother about her bike loan. Here's how it goes (blank part is her mother part);
"why is father like that! I was just telling him about my bike loan for this month!"
"..."
"yeah, but he doesn't need to scream at me! he knows I always pay him back when I get my paycheck!"
"..."
"He's always like that! If I knew it's gonna be like this, I wouldn't have take a bike credit!"
Basically, she's talking about how her father seems unwilling to paid for her bike loan even though she's going to pay him back. Telling her how he doesn't have money to pay it first. And then asking her if it's even the correct amount of loan, cause it's so expensive for an ordinary bike. So she got angry and decided to tell her mom just dad.
And this is what I overheard this morning;
"I am ashamed mother. Your soon to be son-in-law is rich, but we're poor. I'm going to be really ashamed if he saw it!"
"..."
"well, it's not a problem. but I am ashamed mother! It's so shameful!"
"..."
"his father got a shop. So is his other family. He's rich mother! We got nothing! Do you know how shameful that is?"
"..."
"I bet father got no iman (more or less like a belief on your religion)! I work mother, I work! Look at him! He's not going to act like that if he got iman!"
I don't even understand how is being poor suddenly connected to a possibility of not having iman. The reason why you got no money doesn't have anything to do with iman! And I don't understand why she keep on blaming her father. If you know that your parents are poor, then work and try to make them rich! Complaining and blaming your father won't change anything.
She used to work regularly. But recently, she always went to work late and coming back early, then he often went on holiday with his boyfriend. And shoes. Oh my God, you know you got no money but you buy shoes like it was water! Now, try to think about the reason why she's not getting rich, okay.
My father is not a rich man. He's not coming from a rich family. He needs to work his ass off for his entire life. It used to be for the sake of his siblings so they could go to school. Now it's for the sake of me and my brother, so we could go to school. My mom once said to me "because you father know how it feels to have nothing, he just want to give you everything so you won't have to feel what he used to feel". With that kind of thought, he worked very hard every day. From an ordinary sales personnel, until he could stand on his own feet, and now owning his own office. See!
Hard work can change anything! If you keep on slacking off from your work, no wonder nothings change with your fate =__=