Thoughts on Friends
Sometimes I think I expect too much of friends; it's wrong of me, and I apologise for that. There're friends who have supported me and done so much for me, more than I deserved, and I really appreciate it. Friends like Xinying, and I'm sorry if I've not given back as much as I've been given. But I really am thankful for friends like you. And then there're also friends, whom I've been disappointed in for several occasions. But i try to forgive and forget.
Friendship works both ways, as does any kind of relationship. It's hard to achieve a relationship (i'm talking about relationships between people in general, particularly friendships) that is perfectly equal. Yet, even if it's not equal, sometimes we take and sometimes we give. There cannot be a party that gives all the time, while the other party just takes and does nothing much to build the relationship. A friendship founded on such a skewed basis will most likely collapse. And when I talk about giving, it's not giving money, or material benefits. It's giving your time, your concern and your effort. Simple things like spending time together, being concerned about and trying to support and help each other. I believe too that giving yourself - opening up, is paramount in relationships. How can there be friendship if one or both parties surround themselves with walls?
At the level I'm talking about, acquaintances or mere hi-bye friends are not counted. It's more of people who do matter to you; people you care about or regard.
In life, how lonely or isolated you are is not determined by the number of acquaintances or hi-bye friends you have. Take away all these people, and how many friends do you actually have left? How many friends can you actually keep? Quality, not quantity, is key. It's maintaining friendships that matter most, not just building friendships.
Friendship works both ways, as does any kind of relationship. It's hard to achieve a relationship (i'm talking about relationships between people in general, particularly friendships) that is perfectly equal. Yet, even if it's not equal, sometimes we take and sometimes we give. There cannot be a party that gives all the time, while the other party just takes and does nothing much to build the relationship. A friendship founded on such a skewed basis will most likely collapse. And when I talk about giving, it's not giving money, or material benefits. It's giving your time, your concern and your effort. Simple things like spending time together, being concerned about and trying to support and help each other. I believe too that giving yourself - opening up, is paramount in relationships. How can there be friendship if one or both parties surround themselves with walls?
At the level I'm talking about, acquaintances or mere hi-bye friends are not counted. It's more of people who do matter to you; people you care about or regard.
In life, how lonely or isolated you are is not determined by the number of acquaintances or hi-bye friends you have. Take away all these people, and how many friends do you actually have left? How many friends can you actually keep? Quality, not quantity, is key. It's maintaining friendships that matter most, not just building friendships.