It's Going To Take More Than Just Time To Heal This Heartache
Now I remember what I was going to put on here. My whole deal on the reason you are dating someone. Over the summer I was with someone and they asked me something that I will ask myself everytime I'm with someone in the future. Am I with her because I truely like her or just the idea of being with someone. Another person asked me a similar question that I will ask myself as well in the future. Am I with her because of her or just the idea of her? Both are more than great questions to be pondered when your in a relationship with someone. Sometimes the simple idea of just knowing someone cares enough to be with you makes you happy and keeps you in the relationship. But are you just in the relationship for your own personal satisfaction at that present moment or are you in it because you are really happy with the person you are with and not only like everything about the other person but like her/him as well? Your first reaction is probably that you like the person but don't like every single little thing about that other person. No reason to go and break it off because of that. I mean sure go ahead, but dont be too picky. haha. Trying to find someone that has absolutely everything perfect about them is not only stupid because there is no one like that out there but it's aslo stupid because that would be the most boring relationship in the history of history. In the recent relationship I was in where I was asked if I was liking her or the idea of her made me think a little bit more into the question of liking her or liking the idea of being with someone. Yes I could love everything about her, I could be happy with absolutely everything about this girl but was it just the things she did that made me love her or was it who she was that made me love her? I knew my answer right away and it hasn't changed yet. But the outcome of that wasn't in my hands. In future relationships though I have to look at what I am liking. She can be a saint. If I'm looking for a saint then I will fall in love with the saint...am I falling in love with her though? Probably not. Another way of looking at it, which is kind of an extreme but it gets the idea across. Girls falling in love with guys in bands. No I'm not saying every girl does and that every girl dating a guy in a band is being superficial by ANY means...just using this as an example. Is that girl falling in love with the lead singer thats melting faces with a torch some call a microphone or is she falling in love with the guy. Sometimes I do have to make sure I'm not getting myself into anything that has a sure ending. With the more simple question of likeing her or the idea. Being an emotional person as I am, I have to really look hard at that question too. I have to remember I can probably find more than one person that is going to show me affection and treat me well. Not many people, but more than one. So I have to make sure that I'm not falling in love with the first person that holds my hand just right. haha, yea I don't, but Im just saying. Anyways...the person or the idea.