probably the most intelligent and perceptive thing i've read in months
from www.gymgossip.com, the gym board i frequent. this makes sense in more than one context.
"I hate when someone tells their truth and someone else refutes it by saying that they don't have a problem with those things. I mean, good for Kim that she's fine with her experiences, but what does that have to do with how Domi feels? If I say I hate my job and the way they treat me there and someone else likes it, how does that invalidate my feelings? What does their positive experience have to do with my negative one?
Whenever people try to speak up there's always a huge majority who find it safer or more convenient to stick with the status quo. Change is scary, and most people would rather believe that there's no option for change, because otherwise it places a burden of guilt or obligation on them to speak up that they'd rather not accept. It's not the same magnitude obviously, but it's like what Harriet Tubman said, "I freed thousands of slaves, and I could have freed thousands more if they only knew they were slaves."
"I hate when someone tells their truth and someone else refutes it by saying that they don't have a problem with those things. I mean, good for Kim that she's fine with her experiences, but what does that have to do with how Domi feels? If I say I hate my job and the way they treat me there and someone else likes it, how does that invalidate my feelings? What does their positive experience have to do with my negative one?
Whenever people try to speak up there's always a huge majority who find it safer or more convenient to stick with the status quo. Change is scary, and most people would rather believe that there's no option for change, because otherwise it places a burden of guilt or obligation on them to speak up that they'd rather not accept. It's not the same magnitude obviously, but it's like what Harriet Tubman said, "I freed thousands of slaves, and I could have freed thousands more if they only knew they were slaves."