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I was talking to Lauren about this today, but it's an important topic so I think I shall address it here. As my roommate and I concluded the other night, college guys are douche bags.
Before I go into this, there is the obvious statement I must make. Guys and girls are completely different. Guys can separate the physical from the emotional while girls for the most part cannot. If a guy and a girl are hooking up with each other, this can work out fine for a while, but then the girl will almost definetly start to like the guy. Also, girls get turned on first mentally and then physically which is why it takes their bodies longer. Guys get excited every time the wind blows.
We all know this. This cannot be changed, and we can even learn to work around it. The douchebagginess comes next. So a guy and a girl are in a friends-with-benefits situation. Everything is going great until the girl develops real feelings for the guy. She lets him know. He has no such feelings, and maybe even resents the girl for having them. Instead of doing the right thing and letting her know flat out that he has no intentions of ever dating her, and he is just not that into her, he feels the need to lie. He is not ready to give up his easy access to ass, so he says just enough to keep her hopeful but does not commit to anything and generally acts confusing. He might say he is not ready for a girlfriend, needs more time to think about it, or something equally as crappy. She continues to hook up with him and wish and hope, until eventually the guy screws her over. Maybe he finds a girl he actually likes, maybe he just gets sick of all the emotional talk coming from this girl. Whatever the reason, he will ditch her, most likely in a horribly mean way.
At this point, the girl feels like shit. She wonders what is wrong with her to cause this to happen. She doesn't understand what she did. What's worse, she might have to see this guy, who she likes, actually dating another girl.
I think this sucks. It is ingrained in all brains of every college guy, which is why college guys suck. Even the "nice" guys with girlfriends have at some point screwed some poor girl over, or would have if they were more attractive, smooth, confident, etc. I hope at some point they all grow out of this and learn how to be actual functioning members of society, but only time will tell. Until then, girls be careful, and don't trust anyone until they've actual earned your attention.
I'll update again when I've figured out the meaning of life.
Before I go into this, there is the obvious statement I must make. Guys and girls are completely different. Guys can separate the physical from the emotional while girls for the most part cannot. If a guy and a girl are hooking up with each other, this can work out fine for a while, but then the girl will almost definetly start to like the guy. Also, girls get turned on first mentally and then physically which is why it takes their bodies longer. Guys get excited every time the wind blows.
We all know this. This cannot be changed, and we can even learn to work around it. The douchebagginess comes next. So a guy and a girl are in a friends-with-benefits situation. Everything is going great until the girl develops real feelings for the guy. She lets him know. He has no such feelings, and maybe even resents the girl for having them. Instead of doing the right thing and letting her know flat out that he has no intentions of ever dating her, and he is just not that into her, he feels the need to lie. He is not ready to give up his easy access to ass, so he says just enough to keep her hopeful but does not commit to anything and generally acts confusing. He might say he is not ready for a girlfriend, needs more time to think about it, or something equally as crappy. She continues to hook up with him and wish and hope, until eventually the guy screws her over. Maybe he finds a girl he actually likes, maybe he just gets sick of all the emotional talk coming from this girl. Whatever the reason, he will ditch her, most likely in a horribly mean way.
At this point, the girl feels like shit. She wonders what is wrong with her to cause this to happen. She doesn't understand what she did. What's worse, she might have to see this guy, who she likes, actually dating another girl.
I think this sucks. It is ingrained in all brains of every college guy, which is why college guys suck. Even the "nice" guys with girlfriends have at some point screwed some poor girl over, or would have if they were more attractive, smooth, confident, etc. I hope at some point they all grow out of this and learn how to be actual functioning members of society, but only time will tell. Until then, girls be careful, and don't trust anyone until they've actual earned your attention.
I'll update again when I've figured out the meaning of life.