Singh, Singh, Singh

[flambeauvivant]

 I have been to therapy courtesy of the rather marvelous Dr. Singh, who was recommended by Ian Manning, my Talamascan friend. Dr. Singh met with us in her London office just as if I was a mortal who was in need of relationship guidance. A most extraordinary experience! And Louis actually came with me.

Comments

[sr_kalika]

That figures but I think once is better than a flat no

[flambeauvivant]

But how will we achieve anything if he won't take part? He really is infuriating.

[thedizzywriter]

You’re gonna have to be patient and gentle about it.
I honestly think it’s because he’s scared at the end of it. Pushing on him too much might just make him double down on never, ever going again.

[flambeauvivant]

Doesn't he want to at least try?!

[thedizzywriter]

He did try, and I think he did beautifully from what I hear. I understand your frustration Because one time isn’t going to cause a big change, however you need to understand that this is clearly hard for him.
I don’t think it’s just him thinking of the idea as silly and that’s why he’s not going. He said he was uncomfortable and that means that a raw nerve was hit. All you can do is encourage him to push himself, patiently.

[flambeauvivant]

He sat there in silence for most of it, but he actually went so I suppose that non-participating attendance is worth counting as a try?

[thedizzywriter]

He insisted he wouldn’t go at all at first, then when he did (I hear) he was made uncomfortable and didn’t leave. That’s effort towards trying for you. Maybe that’s all he could handle. I don’t know.
What I do know is that he went even though he didn’t want to for you.

[flambeauvivant]

After two hundred years, don't you think we really should try?

[thedizzywriter]

Yes, absolutely!
I think he definitely could be making more of an effort towards this, especially since he said he doesn’t want to go again. I think he took a big step towards improvement with this first try, and he deserves some credit for being there; but I also think he should be following up with it instead of just giving up on it for whatever reason.

[flambeauvivant]

He's giving up because it's hard and that's the only reason I can't forgive. Of course it's hard! Change is hard. Facing up to the hateful demon in your soul is hard. That's the whole point. What is it they say? No pain, no gain.

[thedizzywriter]

I was suspect that this was the reason, myself. I don’t know what to tell you here, but forcing him to go with you won’t help, it’ll just make him more likely to shut down.
you should definitely ask Dr. Singh about this situation. Im certain she can help.
And as far as I’m concerned, I know I’m going to try and talk to him about it when I catch him here. I really want to see him become better and the two of you be stronger than ever together.

[flambeauvivant]

Thank you, my darling. That's a sweet sentiment.

I'll go alone if need be. I'm powerfully intrigued by the whole thing.

[thedizzywriter]

Oh, there’s no need to thank me. that’s what all friends want to see for other friends

What is it that you find the most interesting about the whole thing?
This stuff is so garden variety for me at this point I can’t imagine what others might think is interesting about it.

[flambeauvivant]

It's new for me. I have been to one session before, oh, some thirty years ago, but I didn't take it seriously. I didn't think a mortal could possibly affect immortal problems. Now I'm not so sure. I don't think she can tackle the reality of my life - that's not what I mean. But it is terribly useful to have an outsider speak with us and so knowledgeably too. We've simply got to break these old patterns of behavior and someone like Dr. Singh could help us do it. Frankly, I don't expect a great deal, but I am excited by the possibility of new ideas and insights.

[thedizzywriter]

I think you’re gonna go far in this venture, based on what I read. You certainly have the right mindset to go far with it.

[flambeauvivant]

Stubborn?