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maintaining a friendship with an ex is hard and pointless. because when both of you are single and just "friends" it's basically like you are still together, you hang out with each other a lot, you do not hang out with anyone else of the opposite sex, you're basically exclusive with out actually saying the words.
then when one of you decides to start trying to date other people (not anyone in particular, just someone to treat you romantically!) the other one flips out and gets jealous. wtf? shouldn't "friends" be supportive of the other person trying to step out there? yes friends should, but friends with an ex is NOT A FRIENDSHIP. it's a crutch in between relationships. and you do it just to put off the hurt of mourning the relationship. well once one of the parties involved starts dating someone else, the friendship is over, and you have to mourne the loss of a friendship, and the old relationship.
plus the intentions of an old flame friendship are kind of blurred. one person might HONESTLY just want a friendship, while the other will occasionally try to cuddle or hold hands, thus blurring the line. confusing both parties.
lesson learned. just cut your ties. be civil in public. you can occasionally talk on aim. but don't jump right back in to a relationship by giving it a fake title of "friendship".
then when one of you decides to start trying to date other people (not anyone in particular, just someone to treat you romantically!) the other one flips out and gets jealous. wtf? shouldn't "friends" be supportive of the other person trying to step out there? yes friends should, but friends with an ex is NOT A FRIENDSHIP. it's a crutch in between relationships. and you do it just to put off the hurt of mourning the relationship. well once one of the parties involved starts dating someone else, the friendship is over, and you have to mourne the loss of a friendship, and the old relationship.
plus the intentions of an old flame friendship are kind of blurred. one person might HONESTLY just want a friendship, while the other will occasionally try to cuddle or hold hands, thus blurring the line. confusing both parties.
lesson learned. just cut your ties. be civil in public. you can occasionally talk on aim. but don't jump right back in to a relationship by giving it a fake title of "friendship".