[my take on sexualities. god, i'm so smart lately.]
is it realistic to go out with somebody, have crush on somebody, get physical with that somebody all while being in love with someone else?
i'm looking up nice cafes in lublin. that's my first step. i need to go somewhere with a book and drink coffee. i prepare 30pln for it.
bisexuality in fanfiction does not exist. fandom overlooks it. really. i mean, i believe in it, hell, i AM IT. i love women's bodies as much as men's. i carve both. both are sexually attractive to me. and it happens to be quite annoying in regards to my look at homo- and heterosexuality because as someone who's attracted to both it's almost as being attracted to all. hence it's hard for me to imagine how can you want only one gender. but not understanding doesn't mean not believing it exists or just forgetting about it. i'm not going to go into pansexuality because i'm pretty sure it's not my case. though you never know: maybe i'd fall for transgender? or someone who isn't clearly male or female. love and affection doesn't ask about our preferences, it's just guided by them.
and then the problem with sexuality. where does it begin? end? and WHO NEEDS LABELS? this whole rant would be irrelevant if people weren't so keen on naming and putting things in boxes. so, yes. for me, someone heterosexual is attracted and aroused (because, seriously, sexuality, as the name indicates, comes down to sex and bed intercourses) by someone of the opposite sex. which means someone of the same sex "won't work", there'll be no tension, no arousal, no "want". opposite for homosexuality: for me it's when you, for the lack of formal phrase, "get hard" for someone of the same sex. and you don't when it's someone of opposite. of course body will always be just body, chemistry inside our veins will always be that and i can understand, to some extent, when your body reacts against your preferences even though your mind is screaming for it not to. some reactions are unintentional and we can't help it.
that's why i believe a woman can rape a man. because even if his body reacts, somehow naturally, to the touch and stimulation, he's raped mentally. his body wants but he doesn't. and it's still rape, the excuse of "he was hard" is stupid. you don't rape a body, you rape a human, his mind, feelings. but that's off topic.
with clear lines between sexualities in my head, i can't call a man married to a woman, having regular sexual life, gay. no. if you're gay, you're attracted to your sex, not opposite. once, twice, under pressure, while rape, it can happen, obviously. but 30 years of getting aroused by the touch of opposite sex? i can't see it as homosexuality, never. even under the excuse of "it's only one woman". there's just... something wrong there, i don't know. for me that's bisexuality. that's me. that's wanting women like air and occasionally thinking about a man. or even not that, it's wanting women but not really being against men.
it's clear for me.
it's not for many people in fandom. who separate everything into gay or straight. like there's nothing between. and there's a lot, some things aren't even named yet. i think there are as many sexualities as there are people. and why to name it?
i wish fandom, writers and other authors would remember that bi-, pan-, transexualities exist. and others. it's not fair to think that if aguy isn't straight it has to mean he's gay. no. there are more options than that.
i'm looking up nice cafes in lublin. that's my first step. i need to go somewhere with a book and drink coffee. i prepare 30pln for it.
bisexuality in fanfiction does not exist. fandom overlooks it. really. i mean, i believe in it, hell, i AM IT. i love women's bodies as much as men's. i carve both. both are sexually attractive to me. and it happens to be quite annoying in regards to my look at homo- and heterosexuality because as someone who's attracted to both it's almost as being attracted to all. hence it's hard for me to imagine how can you want only one gender. but not understanding doesn't mean not believing it exists or just forgetting about it. i'm not going to go into pansexuality because i'm pretty sure it's not my case. though you never know: maybe i'd fall for transgender? or someone who isn't clearly male or female. love and affection doesn't ask about our preferences, it's just guided by them.
and then the problem with sexuality. where does it begin? end? and WHO NEEDS LABELS? this whole rant would be irrelevant if people weren't so keen on naming and putting things in boxes. so, yes. for me, someone heterosexual is attracted and aroused (because, seriously, sexuality, as the name indicates, comes down to sex and bed intercourses) by someone of the opposite sex. which means someone of the same sex "won't work", there'll be no tension, no arousal, no "want". opposite for homosexuality: for me it's when you, for the lack of formal phrase, "get hard" for someone of the same sex. and you don't when it's someone of opposite. of course body will always be just body, chemistry inside our veins will always be that and i can understand, to some extent, when your body reacts against your preferences even though your mind is screaming for it not to. some reactions are unintentional and we can't help it.
that's why i believe a woman can rape a man. because even if his body reacts, somehow naturally, to the touch and stimulation, he's raped mentally. his body wants but he doesn't. and it's still rape, the excuse of "he was hard" is stupid. you don't rape a body, you rape a human, his mind, feelings. but that's off topic.
with clear lines between sexualities in my head, i can't call a man married to a woman, having regular sexual life, gay. no. if you're gay, you're attracted to your sex, not opposite. once, twice, under pressure, while rape, it can happen, obviously. but 30 years of getting aroused by the touch of opposite sex? i can't see it as homosexuality, never. even under the excuse of "it's only one woman". there's just... something wrong there, i don't know. for me that's bisexuality. that's me. that's wanting women like air and occasionally thinking about a man. or even not that, it's wanting women but not really being against men.
it's clear for me.
it's not for many people in fandom. who separate everything into gay or straight. like there's nothing between. and there's a lot, some things aren't even named yet. i think there are as many sexualities as there are people. and why to name it?
i wish fandom, writers and other authors would remember that bi-, pan-, transexualities exist. and others. it's not fair to think that if aguy isn't straight it has to mean he's gay. no. there are more options than that.