Poppin' Pills... or something...
Someone (I'm not going into the context because it doesn't really matter) commented the other day that he expected that a girl he knew wanted to have sex with him because she was on the Pill.
Now, I KNOW that he didn't mean it that way, but it really offended me and pissed me the hell off. Personally, I'm one of the millions of users of Yasmin, and I love it. Why? Because it gives me a reason to sleep with anyone I want without worrying?
No.
I take Yasmin because my periods are horribly irregular and I like knowing EXACTLY when I'm going to start. They also vary greatly between being so light I barely notice them and being excruciatingly painful and turning me into a psycho moody bitch for about three days. On Yasmin, I don't get cramps so bad that I lay in bed in agony. So, I take it for a purely medicinal reason. Did the fact that it was by its very nature a contraceptive play into my decision? Yes, partly, though it was only a side-effect for the desired results.
So, why then, is there this so prevalent view that if a girl is on a contraceptive she's sleeping around? Does taking a contraceptive automatically make her a slut? What is up with this view that girls who take the pill are "loose" or "ready for some action"? The feminist side in me really gets riled up when I hear thoughtless comments like that. Whether or not a woman is on the pill is not a good factor for determining how "easy" she is, and there's no reason that that should be a common view in American culture.
A girl who does something healthy for her body and her mental state is not making herself promiscuous. Being prepared in case she meets someone special that she wants to share something special with does not make her a slut. Putting herself and her future first does NOT make her a tramp and I'm going to punch the next person who makes that assumption.
I guess it's the same thing as when a girl sees a condom in a guy's wallet or something like that and assumes that he expects sex from her that night. Or thinks that he's a player or something like that. There is such a stigma on being prepared and being responsible that it's seen as preparing for being irresponsible and over-ready. It really frustrates me sometimes. Hasn't it been proven over and over that "abstinence only" sex education is insufficient? Why, then, with a push in our schools for better sex ed, does our culture still see abstinence as the only true contraceptive for "good" girls and boys?
Sigh.
Now, I KNOW that he didn't mean it that way, but it really offended me and pissed me the hell off. Personally, I'm one of the millions of users of Yasmin, and I love it. Why? Because it gives me a reason to sleep with anyone I want without worrying?
No.
I take Yasmin because my periods are horribly irregular and I like knowing EXACTLY when I'm going to start. They also vary greatly between being so light I barely notice them and being excruciatingly painful and turning me into a psycho moody bitch for about three days. On Yasmin, I don't get cramps so bad that I lay in bed in agony. So, I take it for a purely medicinal reason. Did the fact that it was by its very nature a contraceptive play into my decision? Yes, partly, though it was only a side-effect for the desired results.
So, why then, is there this so prevalent view that if a girl is on a contraceptive she's sleeping around? Does taking a contraceptive automatically make her a slut? What is up with this view that girls who take the pill are "loose" or "ready for some action"? The feminist side in me really gets riled up when I hear thoughtless comments like that. Whether or not a woman is on the pill is not a good factor for determining how "easy" she is, and there's no reason that that should be a common view in American culture.
A girl who does something healthy for her body and her mental state is not making herself promiscuous. Being prepared in case she meets someone special that she wants to share something special with does not make her a slut. Putting herself and her future first does NOT make her a tramp and I'm going to punch the next person who makes that assumption.
I guess it's the same thing as when a girl sees a condom in a guy's wallet or something like that and assumes that he expects sex from her that night. Or thinks that he's a player or something like that. There is such a stigma on being prepared and being responsible that it's seen as preparing for being irresponsible and over-ready. It really frustrates me sometimes. Hasn't it been proven over and over that "abstinence only" sex education is insufficient? Why, then, with a push in our schools for better sex ed, does our culture still see abstinence as the only true contraceptive for "good" girls and boys?
Sigh.