I so know what you mean. Lately Meg and I have been making a consious effort to "keep it real". I remember one time I told her something uber sweet and she was like, "am I the only person you have ever told that to?" and I really wanted to say "yes", but then I remembered how I had said the same thing to like every girlfriend since I was like 12 and had to let her down.
One fairly mature thing I think Meg and I established is not to make huge promises to eachother anymore unless its within the realm of being easily achievable. One of the biggest things: "Let's not promise to be together forever, let's just do it.".
Chris used to swear up and down to me that his ex girlfriend was hideous and the most ugly thing on earth, even though he used to always justify him telling me I was pretty by saying "I would never date anyone I thought was ugly." One night we were at your house and he was fucked up, bitching about how she 'cheated' on him and was such a slut, and finally I was like "Well then why did you date her?" and he goes, "Because she was hot". That kind of shit HURTS, and I think it's great that you're trying your best not to bring that kind of stuff into your relationship.
LOL I know what you mean. Phil is like "does my breath stink?" And I say "Heck yeeeeeeeesssssss!" And when he over compliments me I have to remind him that I have eyes too (not to put myself down but let's get real) and I would rather hear the truth than to know he is not thinking what he is saying. Or something like that. We have both heard alot of lies and I think we can handle the truth now, even if it hurts sometimes, eh!
Hahahah sometimes he'll take a picture of me, and he'll be like "Jesus Carly, you're the most unphotogenic person in the world." I think it's cool that you want the same thing I do. I think the reason a lot of people aren't so honest with their partner because they're afraid of them 'freaking out'. I would rather just hear the truth.
One word to support Chris in: while finding lots of other people attractive, I always find my partner the most attractive of them all, be they male or female. It may be nice to stare at air-brushed models in magazines, but looking at the one I love is different.. a different kind of aura surrounds them, makes them better than everyone else I may or may not fantasize about.
And obviously Chris does the same, and you apparently as well. You'll say "OMG LARS, JUSTIN, MR. ED!! EEEEE!" but do you really want any of them? Sexually or not? He's one step up on the ladder.. his own kind of "hotness" to you, if you will.. haha sorry I'm babbling..
I find other people attractive. He finds other people attractive. As long as we're not sexualizing other people, it's great. I let him know this. Unlike a lot of girls, I WANT him to point out people he thinks are cute. Because finding other people attractive doesn't have to be about objectifying them. As long as we're not doing what horny college guys do to every girl they think is hot, I don't care who we look at. That's why it bothers when he tells me I'm the only girl he looks at, because I know better.
And this is REALLY lame, but the whole other guy thing is played up out of resentment, I think. Yeah...it's lame, hahahaha.
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One fairly mature thing I think Meg and I established is not to make huge promises to eachother anymore unless its within the realm of being easily achievable. One of the biggest things: "Let's not promise to be together forever, let's just do it.".
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Chris used to swear up and down to me that his ex girlfriend was hideous and the most ugly thing on earth, even though he used to always justify him telling me I was pretty by saying "I would never date anyone I thought was ugly." One night we were at your house and he was fucked up, bitching about how she 'cheated' on him and was such a slut, and finally I was like "Well then why did you date her?" and he goes, "Because she was hot".
That kind of shit HURTS, and I think it's great that you're trying your best not to bring that kind of stuff into your relationship.
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And obviously Chris does the same, and you apparently as well. You'll say "OMG LARS, JUSTIN, MR. ED!! EEEEE!" but do you really want any of them? Sexually or not? He's one step up on the ladder.. his own kind of "hotness" to you, if you will.. haha sorry I'm babbling..
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Pat wouldn't have forgotten Pat.
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I find other people attractive. He finds other people attractive. As long as we're not sexualizing other people, it's great. I let him know this. Unlike a lot of girls, I WANT him to point out people he thinks are cute. Because finding other people attractive doesn't have to be about objectifying them. As long as we're not doing what horny college guys do to every girl they think is hot, I don't care who we look at. That's why it bothers when he tells me I'm the only girl he looks at, because I know better.
And this is REALLY lame, but the whole other guy thing is played up out of resentment, I think. Yeah...it's lame, hahahaha.
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