I understand how you feel ... except for the "parent" part of the relationship. I took care of a friend dying of complications from AIDS many years ago, and watched him slowly fade away and weaken until he was just a shell. Eventually he died in my arms as I was turning him over to help him breathe. Don't worry about gushing -- I know how much stress caring for another on that level causes. We need outlets.
Since your posts are open to the public I'm posting anonymously, but I am acquainted with you via SL. Take care of yourself, too! Don't run yourself into the ground; find ways to get lots of rest. [[hugs]]
Don't worry about gushing. I'm just impressed by the calmness and competence with which you are dealing with the whole thing - spotting that the pacemaker wire would be going the same place as the PICC line when the doctor hadn't, wow. And giving up all your social outlets to care for your Dad... we will miss you and be thinking of you at choir. *many virtual hugs*
Oh JJ! Hugs a plenty from me! I really don't know how you cope with all of this. I know you do it because you love your Dad so much, but I am constantly amazed at what you cope with in your calm, gentle way.
I hope the pacemaker can be sorted out soon so that at least one worry can be dealt with.
Do look into the option of a carer. If it gets to the point where you have to put everything else aside, you run the risk of damaging your own physical and mental health. You appear superhuman but all of us have our breaking point.
Would he know me if I came to the hospital? Is he allowed visitors? I'm on holidays next week and I thought that even if I spent an hour visiting with him that could be an hour you could spend doing something for yourself.
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Since your posts are open to the public I'm posting anonymously, but I am acquainted with you via SL. Take care of yourself, too! Don't run yourself into the ground; find ways to get lots of rest. [[hugs]]
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*many virtual hugs*
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I hope the pacemaker can be sorted out soon so that at least one worry can be dealt with.
Do look into the option of a carer. If it gets to the point where you have to put everything else aside, you run the risk of damaging your own physical and mental health. You appear superhuman but all of us have our breaking point.
Would he know me if I came to the hospital? Is he allowed visitors? I'm on holidays next week and I thought that even if I spent an hour visiting with him that could be an hour you could spend doing something for yourself.
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