Ups and downs and legal support
This week has seen a good friend of mine be accepted to the bar (yeah andrew!) and will included another awesome person, or two, getting married at the end of it, but in between, I have been the stress ball to rival my previous stress ball statuses.
Why, you may ask? I am trying to figure out a service and/or employment situation without a written contract - and the info I have on the verbal contract, negotiated by a now third party, comes only in the form of intentionally charged recollections. Oh, the drawbacks of the never ending parade that is the so called political class of students. Will I ever be in a job where I might continously know what I am doing? Hmm, to be honest, I'd probalby prefer not to be... but shh! that will discredit my endless bitching about my job.
I guess I am talking about this stuff so much these days because my complaints and frustrations with my present employment feels easier to explain and more reasonable to share with others than my usual scholastic complaints. But then again, maybe not. Maybe I had less human style frustrations. Processing. will work it out later.
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walking back from the plateau last night, I had disturbing epiphany which strengthens my conviction in my internalised sexism. It is the problem of the sexual power exchange. Feel free to disagree with the application in your own life - I am not claiming this to be applied to all, or perhaps any, free love encounters - but there are classic cases in my history that demonstrate what I'd like to call the slut/player dichotomy. Taking gender roles and heteronormativity as given for the moment, female sexual power comes from the possibility of consumation, male sexual power comes from the reality of having consumated. In a social system, her power depends on the chase, with wafting the idea of sex under his nose while keeping the apparent chances unclear, while his power stems from his experience, expertese, and bragging rights. Before sex is had, the female exerts controle through uncertainty, but after the fact, her power is neutralised, or neutered, while the male has an increase of power over her through his carnal knowledge. In the end, she loses his desire, while his attraction increases.
OK, OK, that was really offensive, and obviously a tainted interpresation of gender dynamics that is hardly applicable to modern socially conscious life. But I meantion it only because I see echos of it in my own life from time to time, for all that I try not to live within such rediculous definitions. And even if it doesn't actually apply to any particular situation the fact that it is an reasonably accurate model in my own mind suggests that this kind of thinking is somehow ingrained.
finn
p.s. did I put in enough disclaimers?
Why, you may ask? I am trying to figure out a service and/or employment situation without a written contract - and the info I have on the verbal contract, negotiated by a now third party, comes only in the form of intentionally charged recollections. Oh, the drawbacks of the never ending parade that is the so called political class of students. Will I ever be in a job where I might continously know what I am doing? Hmm, to be honest, I'd probalby prefer not to be... but shh! that will discredit my endless bitching about my job.
I guess I am talking about this stuff so much these days because my complaints and frustrations with my present employment feels easier to explain and more reasonable to share with others than my usual scholastic complaints. But then again, maybe not. Maybe I had less human style frustrations. Processing. will work it out later.
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walking back from the plateau last night, I had disturbing epiphany which strengthens my conviction in my internalised sexism. It is the problem of the sexual power exchange. Feel free to disagree with the application in your own life - I am not claiming this to be applied to all, or perhaps any, free love encounters - but there are classic cases in my history that demonstrate what I'd like to call the slut/player dichotomy. Taking gender roles and heteronormativity as given for the moment, female sexual power comes from the possibility of consumation, male sexual power comes from the reality of having consumated. In a social system, her power depends on the chase, with wafting the idea of sex under his nose while keeping the apparent chances unclear, while his power stems from his experience, expertese, and bragging rights. Before sex is had, the female exerts controle through uncertainty, but after the fact, her power is neutralised, or neutered, while the male has an increase of power over her through his carnal knowledge. In the end, she loses his desire, while his attraction increases.
OK, OK, that was really offensive, and obviously a tainted interpresation of gender dynamics that is hardly applicable to modern socially conscious life. But I meantion it only because I see echos of it in my own life from time to time, for all that I try not to live within such rediculous definitions. And even if it doesn't actually apply to any particular situation the fact that it is an reasonably accurate model in my own mind suggests that this kind of thinking is somehow ingrained.
finn
p.s. did I put in enough disclaimers?