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An update on me and Jason:
We're making it. We're making it work. I've learned a lot about myself and about relationships in the past year-and-a-half. If I attempted to try to list all the things I've learned, it would be an incredible list. I'm still learning. In fact (and I'm aware of how vague this sounds), there are many things that I'm still learning about and trying to figure out. I don't think this learning will cease or slow any time soon, either.
But I don't, necessarily, believe that to be a bad thing.
Maybe just to reflect, I'll try to list some things I've learned about relationships:
1. Being in a relationship really is tough. I never realized just how trying it could be.
2. At the same time that a relationship is trying, it appears to be rewarding. Always having someone by your side is a comforting feeling, for one.
3. It's really easy to fuck up your partner. In fact, it's really easy to fuck up a relationship.
4. It's, almost, just as easy to improve upon a relationship. A little bit of communication and loving goes a long way.
5. Most people treat their friends better than they treat their spouses. This is a sad fact, and I don't think that I'm exempt from it. (I'm working on it, though)
6. Observationally speaking (as I have not been seeking such a thing), it's harder than hell to find someone who intelligent, relatively emotionally stable, and blah, blah, blah. Everyone has to do the best with what he has. NO relationship is exempt from that.
7. I've got an intelligent, relatively emotionally stable, (blah, blah, blah...lol) partner who is actually committed to me. Amazing. Simply amazing.
8. No one is without his flaws, most especially myself. (Revert to the second half of lesson number six)
9. Maybe just sticking it out, through the good and the tough, is, really, what commitment is all about. No relationship seems to be without problems, and no one is perfect. Maybe, just maybe, that's where the greatness of being in a relationship comes from. Come what may, you know you have someone who will stand by you.
Here's to many more years, my dear. You've taught me valuable lessons about life, love, and long-term relationships. So here's to many more lessons, arguments, sex at two o-clock in the morning (after already having slept a full couple of hours), messy houses, chore and responsibility juggling, cuddles, smiles, scoffs at the world and its inhabitants, so on and so forth. I'm fixing to crawl into bed with you, and I will have the warmest comfort knowing that you are, once again, lying right beside me (even if the bedsheets do need to be washed, badly, and you went to bed in a grumpy mood because the dogs were crowding you on the couch). :) I love you.
We're making it. We're making it work. I've learned a lot about myself and about relationships in the past year-and-a-half. If I attempted to try to list all the things I've learned, it would be an incredible list. I'm still learning. In fact (and I'm aware of how vague this sounds), there are many things that I'm still learning about and trying to figure out. I don't think this learning will cease or slow any time soon, either.
But I don't, necessarily, believe that to be a bad thing.
Maybe just to reflect, I'll try to list some things I've learned about relationships:
1. Being in a relationship really is tough. I never realized just how trying it could be.
2. At the same time that a relationship is trying, it appears to be rewarding. Always having someone by your side is a comforting feeling, for one.
3. It's really easy to fuck up your partner. In fact, it's really easy to fuck up a relationship.
4. It's, almost, just as easy to improve upon a relationship. A little bit of communication and loving goes a long way.
5. Most people treat their friends better than they treat their spouses. This is a sad fact, and I don't think that I'm exempt from it. (I'm working on it, though)
6. Observationally speaking (as I have not been seeking such a thing), it's harder than hell to find someone who intelligent, relatively emotionally stable, and blah, blah, blah. Everyone has to do the best with what he has. NO relationship is exempt from that.
7. I've got an intelligent, relatively emotionally stable, (blah, blah, blah...lol) partner who is actually committed to me. Amazing. Simply amazing.
8. No one is without his flaws, most especially myself. (Revert to the second half of lesson number six)
9. Maybe just sticking it out, through the good and the tough, is, really, what commitment is all about. No relationship seems to be without problems, and no one is perfect. Maybe, just maybe, that's where the greatness of being in a relationship comes from. Come what may, you know you have someone who will stand by you.
Here's to many more years, my dear. You've taught me valuable lessons about life, love, and long-term relationships. So here's to many more lessons, arguments, sex at two o-clock in the morning (after already having slept a full couple of hours), messy houses, chore and responsibility juggling, cuddles, smiles, scoffs at the world and its inhabitants, so on and so forth. I'm fixing to crawl into bed with you, and I will have the warmest comfort knowing that you are, once again, lying right beside me (even if the bedsheets do need to be washed, badly, and you went to bed in a grumpy mood because the dogs were crowding you on the couch). :) I love you.