Another great post, this one on sex positivity.

[fierceawakening]

I just re-read Shame Affirmative, Redux and... damn, do I love it.

It's old, and I'm sure I've linked it before, because it's amazing. But I re-read it, and -- amazing, amazing. Best thing I can think of to demonstrate why "sex positive" is a valid label and not a mere reactionary insult to anti-porners.

One thing that really resonates with me is

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[fierceawakening]

Wow, you're welcome. I wasn't sure that post would even make sense outside of my head. The last time I tried to bring up class and leather/BDSM I got a lot of people going "No... we're all young, rich, and queer, what are you talking about?"

And it really took me a while to realize just how much of it had to do with class, too. Because I wasn't the poor one... I didn't really realize until I first read that post of Q|D's that, for example, my parents looking at me funny when I started to dress like my townie friends was as much about class as about picking up on counterculture markers.

(For example, one of the common ways in gay leather -- which our community was very tied to in a lot of ways -- to signal your preference is to wear your keys hanging from the left (top) or right (bottom) side of your belt. I took to doing this, figuring that people outside of the BDSM community would just think... I had keys. It was very handy to have them so ready to hand, too.

I constantly heard from my family that I looked "like a janitor" because "who hangs their keys like that?" At the time, I thought it was just too butch for my folks, but I suspect there was also something else to "looking like a janitor/workman.")