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[fierceawakening]

[EDIT: See comment thread. At the time I read the post, I did not realize it was a dig at a specific person. I do not agree with or support that dig. I was basing my opinions on the idea that the post was a response to certain flavors of white feminism that suggest that we're all tainted/infected until The Revolution.

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[dmj618]

Oh and just so you know, I do think Renee writes some really great stuff, and I agree with her on many more things than I disagree. It's just that this feud is so wrong and it colors some of her posts because she can't hold back her resentment and envy of BA. No matter how much I hate the, "Yer jus jelus" line of attack, there are things she has said to and about BA that you can't come to any other conclusion. She doesn't understand the love and respect that BA gets in the blogosphere, and she does resent and envy it.

This post today had me tearing up, because I could have written something the same.
http://www.womanist-musings.com/2009/04/sometimes-disability-is-shared-identity.html
I'm also struggling to accept that I am disabled. Back in Dec I asked my doctor to fill out the forms so that I could get the walking disability tag for my minivan. She was shocked that I didn't already have it. I should have had it years ago, but suffered because having it would mean that I have to accept that I am disabled, that's the whole point to the tag. So I didn't ask and just struggled and suffered walking more distance than I could handle and collapsing in a heap of pain once I got home. As long as I didn't have the tag I could think of myself as able-bodied with a temporary condition. Anyway, so when she said she is fighting the idea of getting a wheelchair, it made me think of that.

The same goes for what she says about her family. My family is also as supportive and I feel relieved and guilty about it at the same time.

The only thing that bothered me is in the linked post where she first talks about having disabling conditions. In that one she blames some unnamed hoard of PWD for forcing her to make that post. And I don't believe her. Because she told BA to put on her big girl panties and that she's not allowed to complain about her pain, trials, misfortunes and just dust herself off and keep fighting; I think Renee needed an excuse to talk about her own pain, trials, and misfortunes lest she be told to put on her big girl panties. She decided to make PWD the scapegoat in a post where she admits she is a PWD, how is that for irony?

[fierceawakening]

*nods* Yeah, I've liked a lot of her posts that I've read, but this feud seems silly.

I can think of a VERY few bloggers that I do think whine to get attention; BA's not among them. And if someone is (in your opinion) whining and it bugs you, it would seem to me the better thing to do would be to just stop reading that person, or to vent quietly to your friends.

As far as the whole political "who to ally with" question, I have noticed some people deciding others are "selling out" for not disagreeing with something, and I don't like that. But if that's what started this, "this is why people think I shouldn't support so-and-so, and this is why I think that's wrong" is a much better way to deal with that than "you're a whiner."