National Coming Out Day.

[fickle_goddess]

I'm asexual.

Flat, simple statement that often gets a lot of debate. From my friends, it tends to be the well-meaning assumption that I just haven't really grown-up yet and that I'll get interested in sex later. Or that I'm dismissing sex as something I'm not interested in because I haven't tried it yet

Comments

[pinkspider]

I can't praise you enough for having the nerve to post this publicly. I understand every word you've said here. And I can tell you it doesn't get any better as you get older. You think people find it impossible to believe when you are 21... wait until you get to be over 30.

It's not that I'm cold. I'm a very physically affectionate person. Maybe I could feel physically drawn to someone who I love in that way, devote my life to, spend the rest of my life with, a true soulmate, etc. But it would be that special partner motivating me to become more physical, not the need for physicality motivating me to find a partner. It would definitely have to be someone with whom I have merged intellectually/emotionally/spiritually first. And so far, life hasn't gifted me with that person.

Do you have people implying that there's something wrong with you, that your lack of sex drive must be the result of some trauma or suggest counseling or some other crap? That's what infuriates me more than the ones who just don't believe it. There's something wrong with me because I don't have some overwhelming instinct to mate like an animal. Ugh.