Suggestion...
I would like to make a suggestion: there are two things I keep meaning to talk with everyone about, and it just hasn't happened. So, if it's all right with everyone, I'd like to talk about them after dinner TOMORROW. They are:
1) finances. Both Karl and Cass have asked me about it, and I'd like to make it clear to everyone, and hopefully get some insights. I always feel like I'm behind, and I'm not sure why (except that I don't have as much money as I'd like, of course)
2) chores. I would like to discuss a duty structure with everyone. I am just as bad, if not worse, than anyone in the house. What has worked for me in the past is this: everyone has one daily task (cleaning the cat box, clearing the living room of various things, emptying ashtrays, recycling, unloading the dishwasher, that sort of thing) and one weekly task (generally a room that gets seriously cleaned, or soemthing like that.
If anyone is going to get upset, offended, or feel like they're being unfairly singled out, LET ME KNOW NOW AND WE WON'T TALK ABOUT IT. This is not about being unfair to someone or anyone, it's about finding a way to give everyone in the house a nice clean environment. I know we all like it better when there's a clean house, but everyone feels like they shouldn't do it because, "it's not their job" (I've said it too...) I'd just like suggestions on how to divvy things up so everyone feels it's fair to be doing a part, even if they didn't make the mess necessarily. This is meant to be a positive problem-solving type of thing, not an upset finger-pointing type thing...capisce? :)
Would everyone be willing to set aside time after dinner tomorrow night to discuss such things? We're having ham...
1) finances. Both Karl and Cass have asked me about it, and I'd like to make it clear to everyone, and hopefully get some insights. I always feel like I'm behind, and I'm not sure why (except that I don't have as much money as I'd like, of course)
2) chores. I would like to discuss a duty structure with everyone. I am just as bad, if not worse, than anyone in the house. What has worked for me in the past is this: everyone has one daily task (cleaning the cat box, clearing the living room of various things, emptying ashtrays, recycling, unloading the dishwasher, that sort of thing) and one weekly task (generally a room that gets seriously cleaned, or soemthing like that.
If anyone is going to get upset, offended, or feel like they're being unfairly singled out, LET ME KNOW NOW AND WE WON'T TALK ABOUT IT. This is not about being unfair to someone or anyone, it's about finding a way to give everyone in the house a nice clean environment. I know we all like it better when there's a clean house, but everyone feels like they shouldn't do it because, "it's not their job" (I've said it too...) I'd just like suggestions on how to divvy things up so everyone feels it's fair to be doing a part, even if they didn't make the mess necessarily. This is meant to be a positive problem-solving type of thing, not an upset finger-pointing type thing...capisce? :)
Would everyone be willing to set aside time after dinner tomorrow night to discuss such things? We're having ham...