Gay Monogamous Relationships? Why so Rare?
For the longest time I've been leaning toward finding myself a monogamous relationship (when I haven't been trying to run from interested people at least). Honestly though, I'm finding it very difficult to even find anyone else who's looking for that. Why are monogamous relationships so rare? When I do find someone who might be interested in one
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Without reading other peoples responses I'll give my (probably predictable) reply:
Age of the other can have -a lot- to do with both items you mentioned. Course, part of this is they see everyone else all 'foot loose and fancy free' in the fandom. It's fairly natural for, once folks get into it (the sexual aspects) to go out and explore as much as they can or are willing to do. Since most of the furs that are in the fandom are in the lower age ranges (16-24ish, which is actually a sociologically tested fact) It would stand to reason that most of what you'd see or find is folks that are still exploring, going and messing round a lot.
The second factor (i've said this one to many folks) is distance. To really and truely bond, to help create a good 'glue' between individuals you need that face-to-face interaction. Online can only really go so far and it's -natural- that our mind fills in the gaps of knowledge and such that we cannot see online.
Tones of voice, body language.. and personal interaction.. you simply don't see these things online. Whenever I meet someone from online, even when in a platonic sense, there's unease and 'culture shock' Now with someone that allows themselves to be 'close' and to really extend and open their feelings... that shock will have a more profound effect. Sometimes good, sometimes not.
So in a nutshell, rarity of monogamy and shortness of relationships can mainly be observed because of those two things: Age and distance.
Bare in mind too... online, it's always easier to fall for someone.. and if you don;'t have a 'mate' who's withing immediate driving distance, it would be easier to be emotionally swayed, or physically for that matter.
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