Hah. This has nearly happened to me more than once! Irked beyond measure, or simply feeling like I had something to say which I feel is helpful, I type in a post. Then I realize that my response will be totally misunderstood and if I am quick enough, I delete it or do not post it. If not, I start a major wank all by myself. Heh.
That is the shady side of large fandoms like SGA: on the one hand we get more material to play with, on the other, there's always -or nearly always- some sort of wank happening somewhere!
:)
You are entirely right about privilege, BTW: there is no denying is exists at different levels and is part of our culture, however I am at a loss to understand:
1) how relevant such discussions are in LJ fandom
2) how having a chip on one's shoulder and/or using it as a crutch to excuse what we do is helpful in any way.
I remember someone once trying to excuse a violent high school bully by saying that his father was an alcoholic that beat him. Excuse me? When growing up, I was at times black and blue from my mother's beatings, but I did not use that as an excuse to beat younger and smaller kids than myself.
Feh.
The same applies here: why should people be excused from behaving less than well simply because they think they have or had a rough deal? As you rightly mention, perception of discrimination/oppression/what-have-you is very relative and manipulation by guilt is the oldest trick in the book which only works if we let others walk all over us.
Which, in case I did not make it clear, I do not think is appropriate regardless of who we are and what others perceive as our privileges: this would apply if you were part of the royal family just as easily as if you were a pauper.
That is the shady side of large fandoms like SGA: on the one hand we get more material to play with, on the other, there's always -or nearly always- some sort of wank happening somewhere!
:)
You are entirely right about privilege, BTW: there is no denying is exists at different levels and is part of our culture, however I am at a loss to understand:
1) how relevant such discussions are in LJ fandom
2) how having a chip on one's shoulder and/or using it as a crutch to excuse what we do is helpful in any way.
I remember someone once trying to excuse a violent high school bully by saying that his father was an alcoholic that beat him. Excuse me? When growing up, I was at times black and blue from my mother's beatings, but I did not use that as an excuse to beat younger and smaller kids than myself.
Feh.
The same applies here: why should people be excused from behaving less than well simply because they think they have or had a rough deal? As you rightly mention, perception of discrimination/oppression/what-have-you is very relative and manipulation by guilt is the oldest trick in the book which only works if we let others walk all over us.
Which, in case I did not make it clear, I do not think is appropriate regardless of who we are and what others perceive as our privileges: this would apply if you were part of the royal family just as easily as if you were a pauper.
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