on the road to motherhood

[sessiboy]

interesting nytimes article:

"So will she join the long tradition of famous Ivy League graduates? Not likely. By the time she is 30, this accomplished 19-year-old expects to be a stay-at-home mom."

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*headcementblock*

[___flight_risk]

I have nothing against single moms, but the tone of this article pissed me off so much, you wouldn't know it!

"I've seen the difference between kids who did have their mother stay at home and kids who didn't, and it's kind of like an obvious difference when you look at it," said Ms. Abugo, whose mother, a nurse, stayed home until Ms. Abugo was in first grade.

Whoa, way to set feminism back, there! "Go to work and your child will be a deviant!" What is this, 60's propaganda?

And when she mentions the "obvious difference", I wonder if she's referring to real people or baddies she's seen on the news?

It is a complicated issue and one that most schools have not addressed. The women they are counting on to lead society are likely to marry men who will make enough money to give them a real choice about whether to be full-time mothers, unlike those women who must work out of economic necessity.

Because women who truly enjoy their chosen professions and the power and pleasure of earning their own money are such anomalies as to not even earn a mention.

"A lot of the guys were like, 'I think that's really great,' " Ms. Currie said. "One of the guys was like, 'I think that's sexy.'
1) So if it's about women, it always has to come back to the dudes. Naturally.
2) Who wants to bet that in 10 years, the guy who thinks stay at home moms are a turn on will be taking her hard work for granted and getting frustrated because he comes home from work and "all she can talk about is the kids."

"I accept things how they are," she said. "I don't mind the status quo. I don't see why I have to go against it."

Then please hand in your right to vote, control of your uterus, and, well, your entire right to simply speak, since we haven't had that very long. I'll be sure to give them to someone who will use them properly.

Seriously, I think I'm too angry to sleep now.

Re: *headcementblock*

[kleiosgirl]

"those women who must work out of economic necessity" My mother was one of "those women" because she DIDN'T go to college because a MAN was supposed to take care of her and that man BEAT her and SLEPT around. My oldest aunt didn't go to college because her husband was supposed to support her and he had a psychotic BREAKDOWN, wouldn't take his meds, BEAT her and left her with THREE kids to raise.

I wonder if the "obvious difference" she's talking about is my MA degree or my full fellowship to a doctoral program at USC? Perhaps it's my cousin's near perfect score on the SAT's at the age of 15 or her full ride to SCRIPPS? I'm sick and tired of people throwing around the "working mother" crap all the time. My other aunt (who does have a degree and a husband to support her) doesn't work and her kids are fucked up because she sends them to day-care all the time. And I know a lot of stay at home moms who spend their days ignoring their kids. There is something to be said for quality time.