MPLS
This is going to be a huge topic.
So, when I was fired (under false pretenses) and no longer able to afford my rent (paid to my family) and had to drop out of school and move out, I ended up moving in with the one person that would take me. My BF at the time, DodgerTgr. We had a number of mutual friends, and most of the time we were around each other it was... Ok.
Boy was that a mistake.
First, my family immediately cleared out the storage unit we shared, throwing out everything I didn’t take with me, which was... basically everything, as I had only a small car.
Once there things went south fast.
Once I started working, I was expected to hand over my pay. All of it. I could only eat with him, where he wanted to because I never had money. I was only allowed to see other people in a supervised situation. I wasn’t allowed to work overtime because “only whores work late”. I wasn’t allowed on the lease so he could control when I could come and go. I wasn’t even allowed to talk to the other furs in the building because “they would drug me and steal me away”. I wasn’t allowed to go into certain IRC channels anymore. I wasn’t allowed to do much of anything.
Honestly, that was when I started breaking. It changed me. Two years of mental and emotional torture and abuse.
The only reason I didn’t kill myself during that time was because Pouchhopper would stay in touch, and given the time zone differences I was able to chat with him on the downlow.
Literally he was the only person that checked in on me regularly to make sure I was ok.