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Dec 11, 2009 10:49

What do you mean when you say you trust someone ( Read more... )

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seyewailo December 12 2009, 01:27:01 UTC

Oh my god, I think you just defined trust for me. And I realize that it isn't about them as much as it is about me listening to my own intuition.

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seyewailo December 13 2009, 01:10:48 UTC

I will be there!

lovelikeyeast December 12 2009, 23:50:34 UTC

I agree with this ( ... )

fattest December 13 2009, 00:09:10 UTC

Yeah, I think part of my view includes some history of either having my intuition be wrong, or having ignored my intuition at my peril, both of which lead me to not trust my own judgment. So trusting in the vaster unpredictability and impermanence of humanity feels safer and more realistic for me.

fattest December 13 2009, 00:22:06 UTC

I'm also noticing as this discussion rolls on that I feel a kind of sadness that I am unwilling to trust that anyone would show up in times of dire need. It's ridiculous in a way, because so many people show up for me on a regular basis. But I feel unwilling to expect/trust that it will continue. And honestly, I think this prevents a certain level of intimacy. I'm keeping my distance. Which feels sad.

fattest December 13 2009, 00:23:02 UTC

There's a voice inside that says even though folks show up on a regular basis, my NEEDING it will make it stop. Ugh.

fattest December 13 2009, 00:29:31 UTC

Maybe my holding back from trust is that I want it to be about specific actions I'm attached to. So maybe if I offered a more general trust to people, not necessarily attached to specific actions but to a general attitude of care, I'd have a different experience with this. Hmm.

Not sure my gut has always been right, or that I've always listened. Lots of other stuff gets in the way.

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