I AM SOOOOOOOOOOOO BEYOND PISSED. I HATE MY SISTER I HOPE SHE ROTS IN HELL FOR ALL ETERNITY. I WISH I COULD STAB HER IN THE FACE 1,000 TIMES WITH A DULL PENCIL. I HAVE MICHELLE DOING THAT FOR ME
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here we go...aluminummonkeySeptember 26 2005, 17:22:57 UTC
I know I'm going to regret bringing myself into this, but I can't resist.
If you are still making him pay rent, then he has every right to have his stuff there. He's paying for his room until he has the time to come and get his stuff. He's working full-time and starting school full-time this week. When do you expect him to be able to get down to Florida? He doesn't like paying rent because he's not living there, but at least he still is paying. You can't get on him for that. Take a deep breath and look at it from his side, will you? I know you really don't want to, but try.
He didn't know what he was going to do with school until August. On the same day he found out what he was doing Jennifer called him and found out for herself. He didn't know until that day for sure what was going to happen. You had already re-signed the lease months in advance. Not his fault on that one. He left in May and continued to pay rent even when he was not living there, because you wanted him to. I can understand that. I may not agree whole-heartedly with it, but from your stand point I can see why you would want him to pay. One, his stuff was still there, and two, you got the two bedroom apartment because he was coming. I'm not sure what the difference in prices is between a one and two bedroom apartment, but I'm not quite sure it's $250. Don't jump on me for that, I am just assuming it's not that big pf a difference. It may be. I don't know.
Anyway, the point I am trying to make is that it could have been worse. Could it have been handled differently? Better? Absolutely. Screaming and anger doesn't get any body anywhere. Do you have siblings? If you have, you know there are days when you just want them to disappear. I know there are days when my sister gets on my last nerve and I just want to shoot her. Every body has those days. This was one of those days. He was venting his anger. Maybe he was projecting his anger on his sister, rather than at the situation. I'm sure he loves Jennifer, but at this point it may be deep down hidden somewhere. I'm sure you've had those feelings like that for someone, too.
Now about getting his stuff out. He will do it as soon as he can, I can assure you of that. I do think it's immature to pawn off his stuff or sell it to friends. Think if it was your stuff, would you want someone to pull the stuff you're preparing to pull on you? Maybe if it was your stuff you might have done something differently, but cut him a break. He is doing the best he can. Just drop the anger and the accusations, all of you, and take a step back. You're probably wondering who the heck I think I am by saying all of this, but I am outside the situation. I'm not emotionally involved. I'm not saying you have to listen to me, and you probably won't, but I couldn't help but say my piece and the way I see the situation. Maybe it is just the middle child complex in me that hates to see people fighting. Maybe it's because I can see wrong things were said and done and both parties are hurt and I hate seeing people hurt. Who knows? But go ahead and yell and scream and curse at me because I stuck my nose somewhere it didn't belong. Go ahead and yell at me because you're angry at each other. But just stop hurting each other, will you? This really is something so trivial. Do you really want to create a rift in the family because of some junk in a room? Seriously?
Write things down you want done and why, then talk it over with each other. And by talking I mean calm, even voices. If you start getting angry, walk away and come back to it another time. Talking gets more things done than screaming and anger. And it hurts a lot less. Put everything said and done so far in the past and move on. I'm tired of hearing about this situation. Vicious things have been said, on both sides. Apologize and start from scratch. Just don't do the same things over.
Re: here we go...aluminummonkeySeptember 26 2005, 22:24:42 UTC
Look..i dont know you other than the fact that you are Mike's girlfriend i guess. I appreciate the concern you have but this little tift is between your boy and I. I can see you only see one side of the story which is just fine. With that said let me enlighten you a bit. 1st. In regards to renewing the lease, we made every effort to talk with him and make sure he was going to be here for the next school year. Guess what his answer was? It was a resounding of course ill be here. I promise you if he gave us any indication that he wasnt going to be here the next school year, we would have made other arangements and gotten a smaller apartment. 2nd. 250 dollars was the total amount of rent a month that he paid us( whcih includes electricity,cable, and of course that good ol broadband internet that he loved to use. It is not the difference between a one bedroom apartment and a 2 bedroom aprtment. As far as the arangement between him and his sister, he was just supposed to pay the difference between a one and two bedroom apartment. Which i believe is around 100 bucks. Keep in mind, the lease is still in his name as we speak and he is building his credit as well. BUT HERES THE FREAKIN KICKER...Jennifer wanted to continue to be a CARING SISTER, and let Mike know that he doesnt have to pay the money anymore. YES THATS RIGHT!!! But no, he never bothered to answer her calls, or call her back. And please spare me the BS that he works fulltime and he's always busy yadda yadda yadda. We are tired of the lies!! He knows it. He's irresponsible and doesnt care about anyone except himself and i guess you now. We did our best to help him out especially on the maturing aspect. But as it turns out all he did here was go to Wafflehouse and screw around and FLUNK OUT OF A FREAKIN COMMUNITY COLLEGE!!! OMG!!! I dont expect you to believe a word i am saying and that is just fine. Hes with you now, congratulations. If you trully care about him and love him, then you need to do everything in your power to make sure he gets his ass straight in regards to life, or he better hope that Publix loves him becasue thats all hes got at this point. We did our best and were ass holes for helping, Oh well such is life.
Re: here we go...aluminummonkeySeptember 26 2005, 23:11:34 UTC
The reason he doesn't answer the phone is because he's tired of it all. It wasn't because he was busy. Well, some of the time. I'm not making excuses for him, believe me. The phone calls between him and Jennifer are not always pleasant ones. I've overheard a few of them. I wouldn't answer the phone either if I knew that person was going to make continuous demands of me or ask questions over and over again that I didn't have answers to. Of course I am siding with him. His is the side of the story I heard. But I'm trying to maintain an open mind about it all. Maybe he is a little irresponsible, maybe he is a little immature, but how responsible and mature were you at 19? He's growing up in his own time. Yes, I think it is important to be those things, but it's not your duty to teach him those things. He'll learn what he wants to learn when he wants to learn it. It's as simple as that. In regards to flunking out of college. He made a mistake. No one knows that more than him. He is fixing it. He knows what he is doing. I have full confidence in him. He knows what he expects of himself and he knows what I expect of him. I'm not some airheaded little girlfriend who goes along with everything. I'm not going to sit around degrade him because he's not prefect. No one is. He is doing the best that he can right now. I won't tolerate him giving any less when he starts school again on Wednesday. He is smart. He's learning from his mistakes. There is no way he can have all the answers right now. He wants to be a cop. He will BE a great cop. I know that. Maybe you don't think so at this moment, but I know he will prove you wrong. He is putting his life together. He's smarter than me in a lot of ways. Maybe when all of this calms down and the angry feelings subside you will see what a great guy he is turning out to be. Now I don't know how much stuff he has, but if it is that important for it to be gone, I am willing to come get it myself. I have weekends off. He doesn't. I can't get it this weekend because I am going down to Mississippi, but I can come any time after that. He probably doesn't want me to, but I don't care. I'm as tired of this crap as you are. So if me coming down there and clearing it out will solve this issue, then I will do it. Enough words have been said, enough feelings have been hurt. If I can help solve this problem, please let me know.
Re: here we go...aluminummonkeySeptember 26 2005, 23:40:49 UTC
He's tired of it all??? What are we chop liver???? Proof positive that all the puck thinks about is himself. Im going to tell you right now, that the side of the story you are hearing is crap!!! Dont believe me, thats fine. Stand by your man. All He had to do 4 months ago was say..Richard im going back to GA becasue i fucked up in school and im not ready to be on my own..and oh ya i have my first girlfriend. I would respect that. But what does he do.. He needs all the way to freakin August to make up his mind, when you and I really know what his final descision was going to be. Please, you are his first real girlfriend, kiss, and whatever else. Im not an idiot. If you must ask, when i was 19 years old i was partying everynight and i still managed a 3.9GPA as a sophmore at the University of Florida. I know Mike is not me and believe me i never expected him to be some honor scholar. He can come whenever he wants to get his stuff, you dont need to get involved and im sorry that we are talking like this. He's burnt alot of bridges down here and im sure he doesnt give a crap. Thats the real root of his issues, he just doesnt give a crap. I hope you are right for his sake, regarding everything about him. He's my brother in-law and i care about him, maybe i cared a little to much, but im married to his sister and she is the one that is really being hurt. He knows how sensitive she is, he knows exactly what buttons to push. Isnt this such a tragedy here. All she wanted to do was tell him that he didnt have to pay the stupid rent anymore. sad..
Re: here we go...aluminummonkeySeptember 27 2005, 20:41:18 UTC
SHUT THE FUCK UP. OH MY FUCKIN GOD, MIKE YOUR FRIENDS WITH THE EXCEPTION OF YOUR GIRLFRIEND ARE COMPLETE FUCKIN IDIOTS. TEXT MESSAGING!!!TEXT MESSAGING!! THATS YOUR REBUTAL!!! YOU NEED TO SHUT THE FUCK UP, THATS RIGHT SHUT THE FUCK UP.
Re: here we go...thepharaohSeptember 28 2005, 18:35:27 UTC
First of all, curse at God again and I promise something bad will happen to you soon. Second, how do you expect people to react if you curse too much? Third, I will not shut up. Fourth, learn english if you wanna speak to me. Fifth, when you speak to me, speak with respect. Sixth, the idiot in the situation is you because you assume too much. do you need any more criticism or you did you have enough??
If you are still making him pay rent, then he has every right to have his stuff there. He's paying for his room until he has the time to come and get his stuff. He's working full-time and starting school full-time this week. When do you expect him to be able to get down to Florida? He doesn't like paying rent because he's not living there, but at least he still is paying. You can't get on him for that. Take a deep breath and look at it from his side, will you? I know you really don't want to, but try.
He didn't know what he was going to do with school until August. On the same day he found out what he was doing Jennifer called him and found out for herself. He didn't know until that day for sure what was going to happen. You had already re-signed the lease months in advance. Not his fault on that one. He left in May and continued to pay rent even when he was not living there, because you wanted him to. I can understand that. I may not agree whole-heartedly with it, but from your stand point I can see why you would want him to pay. One, his stuff was still there, and two, you got the two bedroom apartment because he was coming. I'm not sure what the difference in prices is between a one and two bedroom apartment, but I'm not quite sure it's $250. Don't jump on me for that, I am just assuming it's not that big pf a difference. It may be. I don't know.
Anyway, the point I am trying to make is that it could have been worse. Could it have been handled differently? Better? Absolutely. Screaming and anger doesn't get any body anywhere. Do you have siblings? If you have, you know there are days when you just want them to disappear. I know there are days when my sister gets on my last nerve and I just want to shoot her. Every body has those days. This was one of those days. He was venting his anger. Maybe he was projecting his anger on his sister, rather than at the situation. I'm sure he loves Jennifer, but at this point it may be deep down hidden somewhere. I'm sure you've had those feelings like that for someone, too.
Now about getting his stuff out. He will do it as soon as he can, I can assure you of that. I do think it's immature to pawn off his stuff or sell it to friends. Think if it was your stuff, would you want someone to pull the stuff you're preparing to pull on you? Maybe if it was your stuff you might have done something differently, but cut him a break. He is doing the best he can. Just drop the anger and the accusations, all of you, and take a step back. You're probably wondering who the heck I think I am by saying all of this, but I am outside the situation. I'm not emotionally involved. I'm not saying you have to listen to me, and you probably won't, but I couldn't help but say my piece and the way I see the situation. Maybe it is just the middle child complex in me that hates to see people fighting. Maybe it's because I can see wrong things were said and done and both parties are hurt and I hate seeing people hurt. Who knows? But go ahead and yell and scream and curse at me because I stuck my nose somewhere it didn't belong. Go ahead and yell at me because you're angry at each other. But just stop hurting each other, will you? This really is something so trivial. Do you really want to create a rift in the family because of some junk in a room? Seriously?
Write things down you want done and why, then talk it over with each other. And by talking I mean calm, even voices. If you start getting angry, walk away and come back to it another time. Talking gets more things done than screaming and anger. And it hurts a lot less. Put everything said and done so far in the past and move on. I'm tired of hearing about this situation. Vicious things have been said, on both sides. Apologize and start from scratch. Just don't do the same things over.
There. I'm done.
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Maybe he is a little irresponsible, maybe he is a little immature, but how responsible and mature were you at 19? He's growing up in his own time. Yes, I think it is important to be those things, but it's not your duty to teach him those things. He'll learn what he wants to learn when he wants to learn it. It's as simple as that.
In regards to flunking out of college. He made a mistake. No one knows that more than him. He is fixing it. He knows what he is doing. I have full confidence in him. He knows what he expects of himself and he knows what I expect of him. I'm not some airheaded little girlfriend who goes along with everything. I'm not going to sit around degrade him because he's not prefect. No one is. He is doing the best that he can right now. I won't tolerate him giving any less when he starts school again on Wednesday. He is smart. He's learning from his mistakes. There is no way he can have all the answers right now. He wants to be a cop. He will BE a great cop. I know that. Maybe you don't think so at this moment, but I know he will prove you wrong. He is putting his life together. He's smarter than me in a lot of ways. Maybe when all of this calms down and the angry feelings subside you will see what a great guy he is turning out to be.
Now I don't know how much stuff he has, but if it is that important for it to be gone, I am willing to come get it myself. I have weekends off. He doesn't. I can't get it this weekend because I am going down to Mississippi, but I can come any time after that. He probably doesn't want me to, but I don't care. I'm as tired of this crap as you are. So if me coming down there and clearing it out will solve this issue, then I will do it. Enough words have been said, enough feelings have been hurt. If I can help solve this problem, please let me know.
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If you must ask, when i was 19 years old i was partying everynight and i still managed a 3.9GPA as a sophmore at the University of Florida. I know Mike is not me and believe me i never expected him to be some honor scholar.
He can come whenever he wants to get his stuff, you dont need to get involved and im sorry that we are talking like this. He's burnt alot of bridges down here and im sure he doesnt give a crap. Thats the real root of his issues, he just doesnt give a crap. I hope you are right for his sake, regarding everything about him. He's my brother in-law and i care about him, maybe i cared a little to much, but im married to his sister and she is the one that is really being hurt. He knows how sensitive she is, he knows exactly what buttons to push. Isnt this such a tragedy here. All she wanted to do was tell him that he didnt have to pay the stupid rent anymore. sad..
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Second, how do you expect people to react if you curse too much?
Third, I will not shut up.
Fourth, learn english if you wanna speak to me.
Fifth, when you speak to me, speak with respect.
Sixth, the idiot in the situation is you because you assume too much.
do you need any more criticism or you did you have enough??
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Hehehehe. I am giggling inside.
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