Dave/Kurt- why I don't care that it's messed up.
I'm well aware that the majority of fandom are eager for interaction between Dave Karofsky and Kurt Hummel, romantic or otherwise, to end. These are just some of my musings on why I can't wait for more.
1. It's a really interesting storyline.
I lament the fact that the majority of other Glee plot arcs are not interesting enough to capture my attention.
Kurt, Sue and Puck are my favourite characters. I like their oddities and flaws, and the fact that Puck and Sue are deemed by the majority as antagonistic characters, when in actual fact they are quite the opposite underneath- fiercely protective of their loved ones- it reminds me of Elphaba in Wicked. (Everyone assumes she has a black heart, but she's actually the only genuine one out of all of them.)
Kurt is my number one though. I admire his conviction, and honestly, he's one of the most selfless characters I've ever come across in modern fiction. He hides behind this bitchy mask, but he's so fragile and caring, and desperate for friendship and love, to be accepted, and it breaks my heart.
And here we come to Dave- he has the same vulnerability as Kurt, only instead of being able to express himself through music with somewhat reliable friends and an awesome parent to look over him, Dave has no support network. Other people have commented on the fact that when Kurt came out it was not unexpected- his family and friends had lots of clues about his sexuality based on stereotypes. Dave doesn't have that. His father hasn't been waiting since he was three for him to admit it, as Burt has with Kurt.
A romance between Dave and Kurt would be a slow process, with stumbling blocks and numerous mistakes on both parts no doubt. But that's the way with any power couple, and I know I'd love following it.
Kurt and Dave is what's holding my interest with the show. It's painful dropping any fandom, but, as I find the majority of the other main characters intolerable most of the time, I honestly don't know if I can continue watching it unless Kurt continues to get a lot of storylines without Blaine as a romantic interest (I like them as friends, though).
2. If handled well, Dave story could give hope to millions.
If this story arc ends negatively for Dave, what kind of message does that send? You will be unhappy forever because you've made mistakes? I'm sorry, but who hasn't made mistakes? All right, some people's pasts aren't so violent, but I think it would be highly unfair for Finn and Puck to continue on their redemptive paths if Dave didn't get one too. Let's not forget Finn and Puck subjected Kurt to much of the same abuse in the year before Will took over the Glee Club- they attempted to learn from their mistakes and Kurt forgave them. Why are they any more deserving of a second chance, if Dave attempts to do the same? Honestly, I find their behaviour worse than Dave's.
Dave lashed out at Kurt because he could't handle his attraction to Kurt, was determined to ensure that no one could have grounds to bully him the same way that Kurt was bullied, and other reasons that are best explored in fanfiction. Slash fiction aside, Puck and Finn bullied Kurt because they could, and thought that they should. They're the truly homophobic ones- small qualms aside, they have latent homophobia which they're attempting to move past. Everyone deserves a second chance if they truly repent.
3. Jocks are Kurt's type.
I'm just not a Blaine/Kurt shipper. I like them as friends- Kurt deserves a friend who understands him totally. It also doesn't send a good message to homophobes and character like Finn if Kurt and Blaine get together. It sends the message that all gay boys are attracted to each other and that if two boys are gay they will get together eventually, which is a fallacy and a myth.
Also, "opposites attract" is not a phrase for no reason. Kurt and Blaine just remind me of myself hanging out with my friends, and I resent the insinuation that I'd want to date absolutely anyone of the opposite sex just because I'm straight, and I'm sure my gay and bisexual friends would agree. Just because people "click" doesn't mean they're going to date, fuck or harbour unresolved feelings for one another. Welcome to the real world, people.
Dave however, clearly has amorous feelings toward Kurt, he just has difficulty expressing them. If he were to learn to control his impulses and have a gradual relationship with Kurt, I see no reason why they couldn't work out.
4. Violence isn't unforgivable.
Alright, secondary school if tough. I have been bullied. (Well, when I say bullied, I mean there were people who tried to mess with me, but I don't shy away from arguments, so it's more like, people attempted to bully me and I said horrible things back to them. But teachers got involved sometimes. I've never been victimised like Kurt though...) I have had vicious verbal arguments with friends. I've been involved in physical altercations that were painful for all parties, because I'm the sort of person who gives as good as they get.
Everyone has moments in secondary school/high school where it's not a nice experience- where they wish they could just get swallowed up by the ground and never have to go back, when you feel like your entire life is coming crashing down round your ears and you just wish you could start over.
Newsflash. You grow up. You get over it. You put all that shit behind you, and you realise that life's too short to care what people think and there are just some people who are never going to like you- and people that you are never going to like. People should be punished for misdeeds, yes, but that punishment should fit the crime and not last forever.
It annoys me that people are assuming that Dave is beyond redemption. I wonder if these people have ever experienced what happens when people change. It's a rare occurrence, but yes, it does happen.
My family changed. There was a large group of in family- my dad and his siblings, my paternal granddad and some of the younger generation- my cousins and so on, that decided to change. Some of them were very violent, some of them had been to prison, there were gamblers, drug addicts, alcoholics- and as a group, over a long time, they decided that enough was enough.
And it wasn't even that people alienated them which motivated them- okay, my mum left my dad and restricted his access to me because he was a terrible role model and a bad person, but she was the exception to the rule. The rest of my family- the ones that weren't on drugs or getting sent to prison for GBH, genuinely didn't care. (The rule in my family is- you don't screw each other over, you don't steal from your own, you don't hurt your own- everyone else is fair game.) It might sound like they're the mob or something, but trust me, they're not that clever, or that organised. They're just genuinely anti-social people, who have no regard for rules, be it law or social etiquette. Sorry, I should say they were. I guess they figured that life was just a bit easier when everyone was able to attend Christmas dinner or see their kids first steps, and have people hear their surname and not immediately back away. They just... mellowed. I honestly can't remember the last time someone was arrested, or gambled away their savings, or drank themselves into a stupor in front of their kids. It took them like, 15 years, but they got there eventually.
Okay, that ramble was too long, but the point I was trying to make was that people do change. And those people who did distance themselves from the crazier members of my family have gradually come back into the fold, even me, and I live hundreds of miles away from them. It's a slow process, but it's a positive one.
I don't know if it's having these family members which has desensitised me. I still think that Dave's behaviour towards Kurt has been horrible and callous, and he has some serious changes to make before Kurt could begin to forgive him, but I suppose in comparison to some my family and their deeds, well, it's small fry. And my family were forgiven, and they're happier now. So it's not really unrealistic that Dave could change and be forgiven. The truth is stranger than fiction and all that :P
5. Kurt deserves a boyfriend he can be himself with.
Kurt is not a wilting flower. For all his fragility, he's got balls of steel to come out and wear the clothes he does and say/sing what he does in the narrow-minded town he lives in. Blaine is very well adjusted and I just don't think Kurt would be stimulated enough- Blaine's a perfect gentleman, and well, he's boring. It might be a novelty for a while, but the shine wears off, trust me, and in the end you start feeling like you're not good enough to be with such a stellar specimen of the human race. Unless Blaine reveals some serious flaws, I can't see them lasting as a couple.
Dave and Kurt would be a passionate romance- they'd bring out the best and worst in one another, if they could learn to trust one another and open up about their feelings and experiences. Maybe it's just me though- I've always been the sort of person to support Heathcliff/Catherine and Darcy/Elizabeth over Hareton/Catherine Jr. and Bingley/Jane.
Don't get me wrong, temperate romance is sweet and all, but for me, real love is passion and fire, it's not wishy-washy and it's not always polite.
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Anyway, those are my thoughts, you don't have to agree, but please don't yell at me- I don't appreciate it and it's less likely to persuade me to alter any of my opinions.
1. It's a really interesting storyline.
I lament the fact that the majority of other Glee plot arcs are not interesting enough to capture my attention.
Kurt, Sue and Puck are my favourite characters. I like their oddities and flaws, and the fact that Puck and Sue are deemed by the majority as antagonistic characters, when in actual fact they are quite the opposite underneath- fiercely protective of their loved ones- it reminds me of Elphaba in Wicked. (Everyone assumes she has a black heart, but she's actually the only genuine one out of all of them.)
Kurt is my number one though. I admire his conviction, and honestly, he's one of the most selfless characters I've ever come across in modern fiction. He hides behind this bitchy mask, but he's so fragile and caring, and desperate for friendship and love, to be accepted, and it breaks my heart.
And here we come to Dave- he has the same vulnerability as Kurt, only instead of being able to express himself through music with somewhat reliable friends and an awesome parent to look over him, Dave has no support network. Other people have commented on the fact that when Kurt came out it was not unexpected- his family and friends had lots of clues about his sexuality based on stereotypes. Dave doesn't have that. His father hasn't been waiting since he was three for him to admit it, as Burt has with Kurt.
A romance between Dave and Kurt would be a slow process, with stumbling blocks and numerous mistakes on both parts no doubt. But that's the way with any power couple, and I know I'd love following it.
Kurt and Dave is what's holding my interest with the show. It's painful dropping any fandom, but, as I find the majority of the other main characters intolerable most of the time, I honestly don't know if I can continue watching it unless Kurt continues to get a lot of storylines without Blaine as a romantic interest (I like them as friends, though).
2. If handled well, Dave story could give hope to millions.
If this story arc ends negatively for Dave, what kind of message does that send? You will be unhappy forever because you've made mistakes? I'm sorry, but who hasn't made mistakes? All right, some people's pasts aren't so violent, but I think it would be highly unfair for Finn and Puck to continue on their redemptive paths if Dave didn't get one too. Let's not forget Finn and Puck subjected Kurt to much of the same abuse in the year before Will took over the Glee Club- they attempted to learn from their mistakes and Kurt forgave them. Why are they any more deserving of a second chance, if Dave attempts to do the same? Honestly, I find their behaviour worse than Dave's.
Dave lashed out at Kurt because he could't handle his attraction to Kurt, was determined to ensure that no one could have grounds to bully him the same way that Kurt was bullied, and other reasons that are best explored in fanfiction. Slash fiction aside, Puck and Finn bullied Kurt because they could, and thought that they should. They're the truly homophobic ones- small qualms aside, they have latent homophobia which they're attempting to move past. Everyone deserves a second chance if they truly repent.
3. Jocks are Kurt's type.
I'm just not a Blaine/Kurt shipper. I like them as friends- Kurt deserves a friend who understands him totally. It also doesn't send a good message to homophobes and character like Finn if Kurt and Blaine get together. It sends the message that all gay boys are attracted to each other and that if two boys are gay they will get together eventually, which is a fallacy and a myth.
Also, "opposites attract" is not a phrase for no reason. Kurt and Blaine just remind me of myself hanging out with my friends, and I resent the insinuation that I'd want to date absolutely anyone of the opposite sex just because I'm straight, and I'm sure my gay and bisexual friends would agree. Just because people "click" doesn't mean they're going to date, fuck or harbour unresolved feelings for one another. Welcome to the real world, people.
Dave however, clearly has amorous feelings toward Kurt, he just has difficulty expressing them. If he were to learn to control his impulses and have a gradual relationship with Kurt, I see no reason why they couldn't work out.
4. Violence isn't unforgivable.
Alright, secondary school if tough. I have been bullied. (Well, when I say bullied, I mean there were people who tried to mess with me, but I don't shy away from arguments, so it's more like, people attempted to bully me and I said horrible things back to them. But teachers got involved sometimes. I've never been victimised like Kurt though...) I have had vicious verbal arguments with friends. I've been involved in physical altercations that were painful for all parties, because I'm the sort of person who gives as good as they get.
Everyone has moments in secondary school/high school where it's not a nice experience- where they wish they could just get swallowed up by the ground and never have to go back, when you feel like your entire life is coming crashing down round your ears and you just wish you could start over.
Newsflash. You grow up. You get over it. You put all that shit behind you, and you realise that life's too short to care what people think and there are just some people who are never going to like you- and people that you are never going to like. People should be punished for misdeeds, yes, but that punishment should fit the crime and not last forever.
It annoys me that people are assuming that Dave is beyond redemption. I wonder if these people have ever experienced what happens when people change. It's a rare occurrence, but yes, it does happen.
My family changed. There was a large group of in family- my dad and his siblings, my paternal granddad and some of the younger generation- my cousins and so on, that decided to change. Some of them were very violent, some of them had been to prison, there were gamblers, drug addicts, alcoholics- and as a group, over a long time, they decided that enough was enough.
And it wasn't even that people alienated them which motivated them- okay, my mum left my dad and restricted his access to me because he was a terrible role model and a bad person, but she was the exception to the rule. The rest of my family- the ones that weren't on drugs or getting sent to prison for GBH, genuinely didn't care. (The rule in my family is- you don't screw each other over, you don't steal from your own, you don't hurt your own- everyone else is fair game.) It might sound like they're the mob or something, but trust me, they're not that clever, or that organised. They're just genuinely anti-social people, who have no regard for rules, be it law or social etiquette. Sorry, I should say they were. I guess they figured that life was just a bit easier when everyone was able to attend Christmas dinner or see their kids first steps, and have people hear their surname and not immediately back away. They just... mellowed. I honestly can't remember the last time someone was arrested, or gambled away their savings, or drank themselves into a stupor in front of their kids. It took them like, 15 years, but they got there eventually.
Okay, that ramble was too long, but the point I was trying to make was that people do change. And those people who did distance themselves from the crazier members of my family have gradually come back into the fold, even me, and I live hundreds of miles away from them. It's a slow process, but it's a positive one.
I don't know if it's having these family members which has desensitised me. I still think that Dave's behaviour towards Kurt has been horrible and callous, and he has some serious changes to make before Kurt could begin to forgive him, but I suppose in comparison to some my family and their deeds, well, it's small fry. And my family were forgiven, and they're happier now. So it's not really unrealistic that Dave could change and be forgiven. The truth is stranger than fiction and all that :P
5. Kurt deserves a boyfriend he can be himself with.
Kurt is not a wilting flower. For all his fragility, he's got balls of steel to come out and wear the clothes he does and say/sing what he does in the narrow-minded town he lives in. Blaine is very well adjusted and I just don't think Kurt would be stimulated enough- Blaine's a perfect gentleman, and well, he's boring. It might be a novelty for a while, but the shine wears off, trust me, and in the end you start feeling like you're not good enough to be with such a stellar specimen of the human race. Unless Blaine reveals some serious flaws, I can't see them lasting as a couple.
Dave and Kurt would be a passionate romance- they'd bring out the best and worst in one another, if they could learn to trust one another and open up about their feelings and experiences. Maybe it's just me though- I've always been the sort of person to support Heathcliff/Catherine and Darcy/Elizabeth over Hareton/Catherine Jr. and Bingley/Jane.
Don't get me wrong, temperate romance is sweet and all, but for me, real love is passion and fire, it's not wishy-washy and it's not always polite.
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Anyway, those are my thoughts, you don't have to agree, but please don't yell at me- I don't appreciate it and it's less likely to persuade me to alter any of my opinions.