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It isn't about what you deserve or don't deserve. I never really like that word 'deserve'. It's so selfish. Down right pretentious, if you ask me. So let's not go telling people what they do and don't deserve. I don't think that way. I don't believe that way. But, hey, maybe that's just me trying to justify actions and, oh, what would you call them, sacrifices? No, no. I don't know what to label them as. Let's say actions. That's a nice, non-connotative, bland word. I like that word for now. A lot.
Ok, so now you'll ask, 'well, lil' missy, if you don't like the word 'deserve', then what in the world shall we discuss?'
Well, I see it this way: It isn't about deserving or not deserving shit. I know, I know, I'm being repetetive, but stay with me here. Noone has done anything in any previous life to deserve shitty outcomes or occurances or happenings in this one. Noone has done any one or many things to curse themselves. Generally, most people don't go out of their way to make one specific person's life a living hell. Well, I guess I can't say that. That is a bit too optimistic, now isn't it? Too, oh, what is the philosopher I'm looking for, Lockean? I can think of instances in which people have deliberately destroyed another's relationships or life. So, let's rephrase, shall we? Ahem. Generally, whatever 'powers that be', if you so believe in them, if they so exist, don't go out of their way to make one specific person's life a living hell. No one person is a complete and utter fuck-up. No one person deserves complete and utter unhappiness in their life.
And there's that pesky little word again.
'Deserve.'
Well, all spite for those seven letters aside, back to my thought.
And, it goes both ways. Noone necessarily has done or not done anything to deserve complete and utter happiness. People aren't singled out and chosen to have good relationships or chosen to have beautiful lives with everyone and every possible thing they could ever love in them at all times. Sure, it would be fucking fine and dandy, lillies and daffodills, if everyone got that and was able to live their 'perfect life', whatever it may be for that specific person.
But you know what? Life, including any and all of its itty bitty components, isn't perfect. Nowhere near what we all dream and fantasize it to be when we're, what, five, six? And if you haven't figured that one out yet, well, sorry to burst your bubble, kid.
Ok. So, if it isn't about what one 'deserves' or 'doesn't deserve', then what, my dear, is it all about? How do you explain these occurances? This pain in the world? This joy?
Simple.
It isn't about what one deserves. It's about what one gets. And what one does with what one gets. It's about choosing to be happy and choosing to make the best of what you have. Not just wallowing in what you don't or thanking some powerful force for what you do. It's about choosing to have good things in your life, and having the power to, if you feel you don't have good things in your life, change that.
I'm tired of hearing young kids whine abot how they want to grow up and want to have all of these things right now. How they don't like the fact that they aren't in love or don't like the fact that they don't have a car or that their lives are so goddamn miserable because the love of their life left them or they had an argument with them, and 'oh lord, what on earth did I do to deserve this shit?' That's the biggest load of horse shit, yes, horse shit, that I have ever heard.
It's your life. Choose it. Choose to make it what you want it to be. Stop being dramatic. Stop being so pretentious as to assume that you did something to prompt these 'reprocutions' onto yourself. Be thankful for what you have and the life you live. Noone else has it and noone else lives it. Therefore, noone else, save yourself, can fix it or be happy with it.
Love the life you live. Live the life you love.
And for Christ's sake, stop the whining and the bickering and the self-loathing.
Smile.
Post Script-My one cat is enormously obese and eats way too fast and then dry heaves a lot. And I love Lynard Skynard.
Post Post Scripst-This is not intended toward any one specific person.
Ok, so now you'll ask, 'well, lil' missy, if you don't like the word 'deserve', then what in the world shall we discuss?'
Well, I see it this way: It isn't about deserving or not deserving shit. I know, I know, I'm being repetetive, but stay with me here. Noone has done anything in any previous life to deserve shitty outcomes or occurances or happenings in this one. Noone has done any one or many things to curse themselves. Generally, most people don't go out of their way to make one specific person's life a living hell. Well, I guess I can't say that. That is a bit too optimistic, now isn't it? Too, oh, what is the philosopher I'm looking for, Lockean? I can think of instances in which people have deliberately destroyed another's relationships or life. So, let's rephrase, shall we? Ahem. Generally, whatever 'powers that be', if you so believe in them, if they so exist, don't go out of their way to make one specific person's life a living hell. No one person is a complete and utter fuck-up. No one person deserves complete and utter unhappiness in their life.
And there's that pesky little word again.
'Deserve.'
Well, all spite for those seven letters aside, back to my thought.
And, it goes both ways. Noone necessarily has done or not done anything to deserve complete and utter happiness. People aren't singled out and chosen to have good relationships or chosen to have beautiful lives with everyone and every possible thing they could ever love in them at all times. Sure, it would be fucking fine and dandy, lillies and daffodills, if everyone got that and was able to live their 'perfect life', whatever it may be for that specific person.
But you know what? Life, including any and all of its itty bitty components, isn't perfect. Nowhere near what we all dream and fantasize it to be when we're, what, five, six? And if you haven't figured that one out yet, well, sorry to burst your bubble, kid.
Ok. So, if it isn't about what one 'deserves' or 'doesn't deserve', then what, my dear, is it all about? How do you explain these occurances? This pain in the world? This joy?
Simple.
It isn't about what one deserves. It's about what one gets. And what one does with what one gets. It's about choosing to be happy and choosing to make the best of what you have. Not just wallowing in what you don't or thanking some powerful force for what you do. It's about choosing to have good things in your life, and having the power to, if you feel you don't have good things in your life, change that.
I'm tired of hearing young kids whine abot how they want to grow up and want to have all of these things right now. How they don't like the fact that they aren't in love or don't like the fact that they don't have a car or that their lives are so goddamn miserable because the love of their life left them or they had an argument with them, and 'oh lord, what on earth did I do to deserve this shit?' That's the biggest load of horse shit, yes, horse shit, that I have ever heard.
It's your life. Choose it. Choose to make it what you want it to be. Stop being dramatic. Stop being so pretentious as to assume that you did something to prompt these 'reprocutions' onto yourself. Be thankful for what you have and the life you live. Noone else has it and noone else lives it. Therefore, noone else, save yourself, can fix it or be happy with it.
Love the life you live. Live the life you love.
And for Christ's sake, stop the whining and the bickering and the self-loathing.
Smile.
Post Script-My one cat is enormously obese and eats way too fast and then dry heaves a lot. And I love Lynard Skynard.
Post Post Scripst-This is not intended toward any one specific person.