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Still talking with the girl interested in my horsey, (we'll call her C). I've got the feeling she's really passive about things, (as well as mildly passive aggressive which is annoying.) But we'll talk about the just plain passiveness. I understand it. While I'm not the most confrontational, assertive person in the world I'm a lot better than I used to be. I've learned that people can't read my mind and if I want something, need something, or have an interest in something, I've got to tell them.
So far she's done more hint-dropping about things than just plain asking. For instance she says how she's going to miss Shea over the winter break and thinks the horses will miss each other too when she takes hers home for it and wishes she could come with them all. Like, okay. Does she want to take Shea home for a trial-run over the break? Am I just misinterpreting here? I don't want to be the one to suggest it and look like I'm just trying to dump the horse on her. But if I try to wait out her wants will she actually man up and ask them? I mean, I really want to sell my horse, especially to such a caring owner. But tell me what you want, woman! This is mostly communication through e-mail so far, so I don't really know how or when to bring it up.
Now, on the passive aggressiveness: As I said she's a very caring horse owner. I've seen some terrible horse owners. People that myself and others have had to feed and water their animals for them before the manager or somebody else finally called with some firm damn words. People who don't trim their feet or worm them regularly or get them any attention. Now I haven't had all the time in the world to work with the horse lately. We don't ride like we used to, but I feed her every day. If it rains I put her up or make sure she's in a pen with shelter. Last week she got some scrapes and I put nasty smelling ointment on them to keep the flies out and help it heal. But C is like a mother hen with her two horses. A couple of times now she's said things like "Do you have a blanket for her? I don't mind putting one on if I'm out here and it's getting cold." It's west Texas. Yes, it gets cold but horses grow a winter coat and more die from the heat. I had one the first two winters but she yanked it off every time I tried. Anyway, just little things like that, like I could be doing so much more for the well being of this healthy, hearty creature.
I tried to self-analyze my feelings and I really don't think I'm being that sensitive, childish twelve year old pouting "my horsey". I think she's got good intentions, just different standards. But it is annoying having somebody think I'm a neglectful, inexperienced owner. Not coming from a horsey family that kind of thing has always made me a little sensitive.
ANYway, insecurities aside. I do really like this girl. I'm still hoping her and Shea will be a good match. I just wish she'd be more forthright. Buying and selling an animal like this isn't a light matter. And I have so little experience doing so I guess I'd hoped that whatever interested buyers I'd have would be the more assertive, make me an offer, take charge kind. But I'll deal. And pet soft horsey noses in the meantime.