The Childishness of Youth
For the record, I believe what Andrew did was selfish, and stupid.
That said, I think those people who want to blame Steph for this are stupid too. Be mad at me if you want, but I believe it to be true. It's not Steph's fault that he was still in love with her. She's not responsible for his life, only he is responsible for his own feelings, and his own actions. She loved him too, and just because she wasn't in love with him anymore, doesn't mean he ment nothing to her. She's gonna be almost more devestated than anyone else. She was gonna marry him, and she almost had his baby. She really loved him, and all of you who think that she didn't, you are selfish. Honestly, those of you who have loved someone, most of you aren't with that person anymore. And if that ex of yours was to commit suicide, and their friends told you that you couldn't come to the funeral because he/she loved you so much that they couldn't live without you, You would feel sad too. It's not fair to say "I loved him more than you" or "he ment more to me than he did to you". You don't know how someone else feels, and you can't control what someone is gonna do. Those of you who say that Steph should stay away for her health.... I will stand by her side at the funeral. You will have to go through me first. I think you guys are wrong in blaming her, and I think she has every much of a right to be there as all of you do. We all loved Andrew, in different ways, and we are all gonna miss him. There is no excuse for what he did, but it's no one's fault but his own. Steph is not to blame, nor is anyone else. And causeing a scene at the funeral for your selfishness, is extremely disrespectful. How would you feel if you had to witness an angry scene at the funeral of your loved one? His family would be disgraced. And no one will remember that you thought you had a reason, they will remember that you were the one that caused a scene, and embarassed yorself at the most important event for his family. Think of his family, they wouldn't want to see that. Be an adult, and grow up!! He wouldn't want us to fight over this, and I for one, would rather remember the Andrew I knew, a happy guy, who was unsatisfied with his life, but who loved his friends, and family, and who would have done anything for a friend. Just because he was heartbroken, doesn't mean it's anyone's fault. He had his own problems to deal with, and they are no one else's.
I intend to celebrate his life, and not morn his death. I loved him, and I will continue to love him, and hold his memory in my heart. He was a great friend, and although he left us all to soon, he loved all of his friends, and we could always count on him being there for us.
If any of you have a problem with this, tough luck. I think you are wrong for placing the blame on anyone but him. Grow up, and move on. He's gone, we can't bring him back, and making someone else's life miserable, is a hateful thing to do, and Karma WILL kick you! Treat others the way you would like to be treated yourself!!!
I will post about all the details of the funeral, when I know about it. Those who want to know what happened, call me, or message me. I'd rather not post it on here like this.
Sadly yours,
sarah
That said, I think those people who want to blame Steph for this are stupid too. Be mad at me if you want, but I believe it to be true. It's not Steph's fault that he was still in love with her. She's not responsible for his life, only he is responsible for his own feelings, and his own actions. She loved him too, and just because she wasn't in love with him anymore, doesn't mean he ment nothing to her. She's gonna be almost more devestated than anyone else. She was gonna marry him, and she almost had his baby. She really loved him, and all of you who think that she didn't, you are selfish. Honestly, those of you who have loved someone, most of you aren't with that person anymore. And if that ex of yours was to commit suicide, and their friends told you that you couldn't come to the funeral because he/she loved you so much that they couldn't live without you, You would feel sad too. It's not fair to say "I loved him more than you" or "he ment more to me than he did to you". You don't know how someone else feels, and you can't control what someone is gonna do. Those of you who say that Steph should stay away for her health.... I will stand by her side at the funeral. You will have to go through me first. I think you guys are wrong in blaming her, and I think she has every much of a right to be there as all of you do. We all loved Andrew, in different ways, and we are all gonna miss him. There is no excuse for what he did, but it's no one's fault but his own. Steph is not to blame, nor is anyone else. And causeing a scene at the funeral for your selfishness, is extremely disrespectful. How would you feel if you had to witness an angry scene at the funeral of your loved one? His family would be disgraced. And no one will remember that you thought you had a reason, they will remember that you were the one that caused a scene, and embarassed yorself at the most important event for his family. Think of his family, they wouldn't want to see that. Be an adult, and grow up!! He wouldn't want us to fight over this, and I for one, would rather remember the Andrew I knew, a happy guy, who was unsatisfied with his life, but who loved his friends, and family, and who would have done anything for a friend. Just because he was heartbroken, doesn't mean it's anyone's fault. He had his own problems to deal with, and they are no one else's.
I intend to celebrate his life, and not morn his death. I loved him, and I will continue to love him, and hold his memory in my heart. He was a great friend, and although he left us all to soon, he loved all of his friends, and we could always count on him being there for us.
If any of you have a problem with this, tough luck. I think you are wrong for placing the blame on anyone but him. Grow up, and move on. He's gone, we can't bring him back, and making someone else's life miserable, is a hateful thing to do, and Karma WILL kick you! Treat others the way you would like to be treated yourself!!!
I will post about all the details of the funeral, when I know about it. Those who want to know what happened, call me, or message me. I'd rather not post it on here like this.
Sadly yours,
sarah