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the best part about yesterday is that it is over. And I only had one meltdown, 45 minutes into work.
It was one of Those days.
(((And now Little Brother isn't helping because HE is overtired and overworked and having an emotional meltdown, which has my overtired and overworked FATHER freaking out. And I'm like, "YOU need to go to bed. And YOU need to go to bed." with a side of, "And Little Brother, you have to learn to deal, because you are 19 on Thursday, which means you can't keep biting on to more than you WANT to chew and then getting Dad to bail you out when you get overtired and emotional. You are going to learn how to say 'No,' how to ask for help, or how to man up and deal with it." Even if "dealing with it" means "going to the back room for a 30-second cry and mop up," to which, today, it did.)))
(((I know I'm being harsh on Andrew and I'm not always one to talk. But he has a Thing where he'll bite off more than he can chew, realize he bit off more than he can chew, and then try to get my dad to bail him out of it halfway through. Like this weekend. He volunteered to spend it with one of his dogshow people, who has a history of overworking him. Well, Andrew got through half of it and decided he couldn't finish his commitment, but instead of saying, "Look. I'm sorry, but I've had enough; I need to go home," he was trying to get US to lie about something coming up and needing him to be here and blah blah blah. Look. We might be able to come running to rescue you know, but you're going to have to learn how to deal with this stress, ESPECIALLY when it's your commitment. If you say you're going to do something, but then can't, it's your responsibility to man up to it (<--- disclaimer: I hate doing this, but I -do-. I take full responsibility when bailing on people/a project. I apologize profusely. And I try to make up for it later on). When you're in college and it's finals week, and you've got to write five papers and study for three exams and you've only got two days to do it all, it's up to you, buddy. We're not going to be there to rescue you and take away the problem)))
(((I know this entry screams of hypocrisy. Guilty. I think that's maybe why I'm trying to stress it on my brother so much? We're very much alike in that, when we're tired and overwhelmed, we get weepy and take up a defeatist attitude to whatever commitments we've still got. I've been trying really hard to move away from Superman Dad, but Andrew still expects him to swoop down and make all the problems better. (Amberly: ALL the problems better? XD!!!) And I mean, Andrew's 19. I learned long ago what my limitations are and I plan accordingly, so I can AVOID the weepy, defeatist "Come save me" attitude. He's going to have to start planning his life around this too, because he can't keep having my dad make his excuses. Especially when it's Andrew bailing on Andrew's commitments)))
It was one of Those days.
(((And now Little Brother isn't helping because HE is overtired and overworked and having an emotional meltdown, which has my overtired and overworked FATHER freaking out. And I'm like, "YOU need to go to bed. And YOU need to go to bed." with a side of, "And Little Brother, you have to learn to deal, because you are 19 on Thursday, which means you can't keep biting on to more than you WANT to chew and then getting Dad to bail you out when you get overtired and emotional. You are going to learn how to say 'No,' how to ask for help, or how to man up and deal with it." Even if "dealing with it" means "going to the back room for a 30-second cry and mop up," to which, today, it did.)))
(((I know I'm being harsh on Andrew and I'm not always one to talk. But he has a Thing where he'll bite off more than he can chew, realize he bit off more than he can chew, and then try to get my dad to bail him out of it halfway through. Like this weekend. He volunteered to spend it with one of his dogshow people, who has a history of overworking him. Well, Andrew got through half of it and decided he couldn't finish his commitment, but instead of saying, "Look. I'm sorry, but I've had enough; I need to go home," he was trying to get US to lie about something coming up and needing him to be here and blah blah blah. Look. We might be able to come running to rescue you know, but you're going to have to learn how to deal with this stress, ESPECIALLY when it's your commitment. If you say you're going to do something, but then can't, it's your responsibility to man up to it (<--- disclaimer: I hate doing this, but I -do-. I take full responsibility when bailing on people/a project. I apologize profusely. And I try to make up for it later on). When you're in college and it's finals week, and you've got to write five papers and study for three exams and you've only got two days to do it all, it's up to you, buddy. We're not going to be there to rescue you and take away the problem)))
(((I know this entry screams of hypocrisy. Guilty. I think that's maybe why I'm trying to stress it on my brother so much? We're very much alike in that, when we're tired and overwhelmed, we get weepy and take up a defeatist attitude to whatever commitments we've still got. I've been trying really hard to move away from Superman Dad, but Andrew still expects him to swoop down and make all the problems better. (Amberly: ALL the problems better? XD!!!) And I mean, Andrew's 19. I learned long ago what my limitations are and I plan accordingly, so I can AVOID the weepy, defeatist "Come save me" attitude. He's going to have to start planning his life around this too, because he can't keep having my dad make his excuses. Especially when it's Andrew bailing on Andrew's commitments)))